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Title: suicide attempt again
Post by: mafmum on May 16, 2013, 05:55:33 PM
dd18 tried again with 30g of lithium and 8g of valproate. we don't know yet if she is going to pull it over. We hope her liver resist. please pray for her


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: skelly_bean on May 16, 2013, 06:08:16 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this... .  It must be so hard for you right now... . Keeping your dd in mind, sending positive thoughts and energy your way... .       


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: angeldust1 on May 16, 2013, 06:12:26 PM
Will certainly pray for her and you as well. I can't imagine how hard this must be.  Stay stong and trust God.


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: margjo on May 16, 2013, 06:24:33 PM
You all are in my thoughts.

Hugs

Margjo


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: sk8mom on May 16, 2013, 06:58:23 PM
In my  prayers... .  so sorry


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: Tkwoody on May 16, 2013, 07:15:15 PM
Lots of prayers to you and yours.

If He brings you to it, HE will bring you through it.

Believe it.


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: cleanandsober on May 16, 2013, 07:26:47 PM
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.  Peace and God's Blessings... .  


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: vivekananda on May 16, 2013, 07:50:25 PM
praying for you and sending you strength and love     

If you are able to, it may be of benefit to consider what goes into the development of a BPD management plan and the suggested principles of response during a crisis. There is what may be helpful guidance available from the guidelines in the link below. It takes you to a site where you can download a pdf. The pages of special concern to you are pp124 - 132. On page 137, there is also a template for a management plan. This is based on the latest research, it was published for clinicians just this month (in Aust):

Clinical Practice Guideline for the Management of BPD (Aust) (http://www.nhmrc.gov.au/guidelines/publications/mh25)

Please let us know how it goes,

Vivek      


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: BioAdoptMom3 on May 16, 2013, 08:38:57 PM
I am so sorry about this latest attempt!  Please know we, your BPD family are here for you.  My prayers are lifted up for your daughter, as well as for your peace and strength!


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: peaceandhope on May 16, 2013, 09:52:46 PM
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Please know that all of us here on this forum are there for you

Peaceandhope


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: jellibeans on May 16, 2013, 10:22:42 PM
I am thinking of you tonight... .  stay strong... .  I will say a prayer for you and you dd... .  hold on  


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: crazedncrazymom on May 17, 2013, 05:42:27 AM
I'm so sorry you're going through this.  My thoughts are with you and your family.  I hope your daughter pulls through and finally accepts the help she needs.


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: griz on May 17, 2013, 07:42:41 AM
My heart and my prayers are with you and your family.  We are all here for you.

Griz  


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: parent of bpd daughter on May 17, 2013, 10:53:12 AM
All my prayers with you at this tough tough time. Please let us know how she is doing.


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: stupafly on May 17, 2013, 03:39:13 PM
You and your daughter will be in my thoughts Mafmum.  I will be praying for your strength and her recovery. 

Stupafly


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: pessim-optimist on May 17, 2013, 11:12:23 PM
mafmum, praying for your dd's life and opportunity to reach out towards change; and for you - strength and peace... .        


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: MammaMia on May 17, 2013, 11:59:11 PM
I am so sorry.  To be 18 and want to die - before having the chance to really live is heartbreaking.  I pray your daughter will survive and have the opportunity to get help to see beyond the crisis of the moment to all that life has to offer in the future.

We cannot watch them 24/7.  We cannot always keep them safe, but we can love and support them and trust in God to help us survive yet another crisis.  Mental illness is devastatingly cruel to those who are afflicted by it and everyone who loves them.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: mafmum on May 18, 2013, 07:19:50 PM
dd18 is on intensive care unit but is no longer on life danger. she is awake and in intense emotional sufferance! she really wanted to die: it's heart-breaking watching her pain!


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: jellibeans on May 18, 2013, 08:37:31 PM
I am so sorry mafmum for all you have been through with your dd... .  you have been in my thoughts and i found myself thinking of all the times I have sat in the ER after one of my dd's overdoses... .  my heart aches for you both... .  so young... .  take some time to rest and take care of yourself... .  I hope your dd recovers and can try to try again to live her life without the pain... .  I am glad she is okay and hopefully will recover fully... .  


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: pessim-optimist on May 18, 2013, 08:55:43 PM
hello mafmum,

Thank you so much for your latest update.   

Thinking of you and praying for you... .     


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: vivekananda on May 19, 2013, 05:02:40 AM
Hi Mafmum, I am sending you and your dd strength and best wishes,

Vivek        


Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: MammaMia on May 19, 2013, 10:57:59 AM
Mamfum

My own son called last night to say he was so sick of everything and not being able to find work that he was considering violating his parole and going back to prison or dying.  He is 39.  He says he has done everything right since his conviction for refusal to test (Felony DUI) in 2006 and no one will give him a chance.  We talked for a long time.  He is off supervision in 10 months and then will be free to leave the area.  He hates it here, but I worry that things will not change no matter where he goes. 

I read that pwBPD are 400 to 800% more likely to attempt or commit suicide than the general population.  That is terrifying.

I often feel like my son is on loan to me from God.  He could be your daughter at any time.  It is hard for us to imagine life can be so horrible that the only alternative is death.  He called me 6 times last night very hyper and we talked until 230am before he calmed down.  Is he ok?  I do not know the answer to that.  I hope and pray he will be.  He hates this town, hates the house where he lives rent free, hates the neighbors (he is convinced they are all watching him and his phone is tapped).  Some days he is afraid to leave the house.  I have begged him to seek medical help but then he says he is just venting and he is fine... .  

There but for the grace of God go we.  Many of us here can relate to your fear and frustration.  I truly hope your daughter gets the professional help she needs.  Since she is 18, you may need to proceed with involuntary commitment to keep her safe. Just do what you have to do.

No parent deserves this. BPD sucks... .  we are all victims.





Title: Re: suicide attempt again
Post by: sk8mom on May 20, 2013, 09:48:10 PM
Mamfum,

Thank you for the update.  I can only imagine the pain you are in.

  I pray that God will bring people into her life that will be able to reach her where she is and comfort her.  I pray that God will send you peace and rest.