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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD => Topic started by: peaceandhope on May 16, 2013, 09:43:45 PM



Title: Mother's Day cards
Post by: peaceandhope on May 16, 2013, 09:43:45 PM
My dd sent me very beautiul mother's day cards.

I know she loves me as much as  any person with BPD can with their symptoms.

I have distanced myself to protect her from acting out( I dont if Iam doing the right thing by doing that)  and for my own wellbeing. I talked very briefly when she calls and I keep it very superficially.

Just wanted to shared this with my friends here.

Peaceandlove  


Title: Re: Mother's Day cards
Post by: jellibeans on May 16, 2013, 10:26:19 PM
I am glad you got a card... .  it is sometimes the little things that mean the most... .  I am happy you had a good mothers day  


Title: Re: Mother's Day cards
Post by: griz on May 17, 2013, 01:48:00 PM
So happy you got such a lovely Mother's Day card.  Just think of how much it took for her to step outside herself and do something special for you... .  Ahhhhhh, how much she must love you.

Griz


Title: Re: Mother's Day cards
Post by: angeldust1 on May 17, 2013, 10:10:50 PM
Distancing yourself is what is needed here.  Indeed you are doing it for her,   as well as yourself.   I wish I could say from my own experience that they do come back,  but mine has not yet.    I have had a nice break from all the craziness,  but I still miss him.  Sometimes we have to take care not to let it tear us down.  We are people and deserve some peace in our lives.

Just by the simple fact that she sent you a card tells me she is thinking about you,  and as hard as it is to believe... .  she does love you.   

angel


Title: Re: Mother's Day cards
Post by: peaceandhope on May 18, 2013, 01:54:27 PM
Thanks jellibeans, Griz and Angeldust.

Yes I was very happy to recieve the card.

Angeldust, I know she loves me. Outside of her illness she is  truly a wonderful girl. But unfortunately this cruel illness takes over her thoughts, emotions and behaviors  and makes her do the things that are unhealthy and destructive.

Peaceandhope