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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: PascalB on May 18, 2013, 05:07:22 PM



Title: How to handle this
Post by: PascalB on May 18, 2013, 05:07:22 PM
Me and my BPD wife have been separated for 6 months and as hard as it is I want to move on. I have tried dating and I'm always afraid of getting seen by my ex. Well my nightmare came through the other night as I had company over and my ex showed up and started banging on my windows. I got her to leave after talking with her for a couple of hrs. The girl was scared and is done with me which I fully understand. But now my ex is putting on the full court press with text for example after our talk she assumed I would give her another chance

i wanna thank u for giving me another chance it feels like i won the lottery. u gonna c how much i love u and want to be with u for the rest of our life. and i know we are taking it slow. i love u always pascal

I followed by telling her that I had not decided that and need more time to let her know which lead to these throughout the day

please give me another chance we dont have to say we r together just work on getting there i wont let u down i love u so much.

no pressure i just need one more chance to prove my love for u. i  know u have a heart to give me just one more try. 12 years is not easy to let go. i love u i will not ask u again just give me an answer when u ready. we can do this

I'm starting to question my self and if she really loves me and maybe I'm making the wrong choice?


Title: Re: How to handle this
Post by: Clearmind on May 18, 2013, 05:17:08 PM
PB, these texts can easily cause you question what you want to do.

Can you remind yourself of why you left/separated in the first place. Look at the facts and remove the emotion.