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Title: Small Victories Post by: jvseattle on May 22, 2013, 04:20:10 PM Here is my intro for background: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=201805.0
Today I had to figure out how to split our cell phone plan. By doing so I saw on the website the hundreds of text messages she's sent and received in the last week, from one specific number I don't recognize. My first instinct was panic, and I even started formulating plans to look at her phone and see what all these messages are. Then I stopped. Took a breath, and started reading some posts here. I know exactly what I would find there and it wouldn't help me at all. Chances are she's telling her new fling how unattractive and boring I am. Whatever, she said the same things to me in the beginning. Anything it takes to build up my replacement. So I calmed down, realized what I was doing, and instead called and made plans to go after work with a friend to get happy hour tacos. I think this plan is way healthier and tastier. So folks, have any small victories today? Title: Re: Small Victories Post by: KE151 on May 22, 2013, 04:25:15 PM Awesome JV!
No victories of this scale here today. Bit by bit... . Title: Re: Small Victories Post by: GreenMango on May 22, 2013, 04:30:33 PM Excerpt So I calmed down, realized what I was doing, and instead called and made plans to go after work with a friend to get happy hour tacos. I think this plan is way healthier and tastier. Good Plan! |iiii Excerpt So folks, have any small victories today? Not yet but the day is young... . Congratulations - go have some fun - I'm guessing you deserve it. :) Title: Re: Small Victories Post by: seeking balance on May 22, 2013, 07:16:54 PM Here is my intro for background: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=201805.0 Today I had to figure out how to split our cell phone plan. By doing so I saw on the website the hundreds of text messages she's sent and received in the last week, from one specific number I don't recognize. My first instinct was panic, and I even started formulating plans to look at her phone and see what all these messages are. Then I stopped. Took a breath, and started reading some posts here. I know exactly what I would find there and it wouldn't help me at all. Chances are she's telling her new fling how unattractive and boring I am. Whatever, she said the same things to me in the beginning. Anything it takes to build up my replacement. So I calmed down, realized what I was doing, and instead called and made plans to go after work with a friend to get happy hour tacos. I think this plan is way healthier and tastier. So folks, have any small victories today? jvseattle - I am going to officially give you a BIG VICTORY today! You took care of yourself and didn't personalize her actions - well done... . very impressive |iiii Title: Re: Small Victories Post by: leftbehind on May 22, 2013, 11:47:02 PM That is HUGE! I'm so happy for you, JVSeattle. |iiii
My small victory is that I really have been wanting to check his facebook the last couple of days, but haven't. I checked last Monday because my intuition told me it was time, and I saw that he's dating someone else. I feel that's all I needed to know, anything else I might find by checking is just torturous overkill. So I'm proud that so far I've resisted going back to check. Title: Re: Small Victories Post by: jvseattle on May 23, 2013, 12:00:17 AM Hey leftbehind, I know how tough that is. You feel so attached and possessive, you still feel responsible for them and their well being. I know completely blocking all their social media has helped me a lot. Remove the temptation and you're less likely to see things that set you back. Focus on you.
Title: Re: Small Victories Post by: leftbehind on May 23, 2013, 12:11:18 AM I'm sure you're right, but I'm not there yet. I was actually glad that I saw he's dating someone else (even though it felt horrible) because now whenever I have the thought of writing or calling him, I remind myself he's moved on to another woman.
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