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Title: what to do? Post by: qwaszx on May 24, 2013, 11:07:07 PM my friends pretty shut down, and not talking really, she texts me back if i text her in the morning pretty well only to let me know she’s not dead, its something we have agreed on, cuz i actually really worry if i dont here from her within a day or two, its just not normal for her. Everything used to be like clockwork, now it’s pretty random. her moods have been really low/depressed or raging. I can’t get her engaged in any convo... . this worries me... . shes only this vag when she suicidal... . and this has been over a month or so now... . i know shes only doing this cuz she doesnt want to feel.(hides, watches horror movies, stupid lies, avoidant, gets kinda lethargic, etc) far as i know she isn’t talking to anyone, and stopped therapy, i believe... . im to afraid to ask cuz if she hasn’t i don’t want to do something to trigger her into stopping... . i desperately want to get her on the phone with me, cuz i know when i call she talks and she feels a bit better after, even if she didn’t want to... . but i can’t get her to pick up... . we've agreed on set dates and she just avoids me... . or gives me every excuse in the book... . so what should i do? Title: Re: what to do? Post by: qwaszx on May 24, 2013, 11:45:06 PM I just wanta be like, "im still here, im not going anywhere, im still trying, i need your help though if this is going to work"... . she used to always say something along the lines of "you can’t beat a dead horse" referring to herself... . im just not getting through to her... . and i dont know what approach i need to try... . i wish i were there
and yes i know i can only help myself... . :/ hmmm... . Title: Re: what to do? Post by: Chosen on May 24, 2013, 11:55:18 PM I just wanta be like, "im still here, im not going anywhere, im still trying, i need your help though if this is going to work" Why don't you text her something like that then. Whether she replies or not is ok. I understand you're worried about her, but unfortunately if she chooses to shut down, then all you can do for now is to let know her you'll be there for her. Title: Re: what to do? Post by: qwaszx on May 25, 2013, 08:02:36 AM i have texted her the first part a couple time, i feel like with in the past year i've said it at least once a week, i dont think the last two lines i should say, i dont want her to feel like what shes doing is worrying me or make her feel like shes doing something "wrong"... .
hopefully shes coming around... . got a text from her this morning "i love you... . miss you" :) before that i hadn't heard from her first in a long while... . |