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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: benny2 on May 27, 2013, 07:06:25 PM



Title: well he contacted me
Post by: benny2 on May 27, 2013, 07:06:25 PM
He texted me and I could tell he was angry and painted me black because I told him of the BPD. The reason I could tell of the anger is because when I explained to him that I want to be there for him and I want him to get help so he can have a normal relationship with someone, he replied ha ha ha. His normal immature behavior that comes out when hes angry. I explained to him that I care for him, I love him and he cannot change that. Of course he replied " yeah right" but now he is texting me in a more friendly mannor. I'm not sure if this means he is excepting it or just trying to ignore it, but at least now he knows that I am aware of the fact he has a disorder, and I do not wish to abandon him.


Title: Re: well he contacted me
Post by: confetti on May 27, 2013, 08:22:08 PM
I do not have BPD, but I am diagnosed NPD which is very similar and it hurts a lot when someone fully confronts you this manner. It's really silly but it FEELS like someone is pointing out that you have a big nose and you should ~probably~ get rhinoplasty or you will be hideous forever.

I'm not ragging on you, I totally did it to mine too for a while. I told him that I care about him and that he should get help, that I would even pay for it.

However, you are responsible for you. Only you can change yourself, and not make a decision or force someone to accept something that they are not willing to on their own just yet.


Title: Re: well he contacted me
Post by: benny2 on May 27, 2013, 08:30:48 PM
 I understand and that is why I did not say anything for so long. He has even asked me if I knew what is wrong with him before and I remained silent. It came out in time of rage on my behalf. He was throwing me to the curb once again because I expressed my feelings of how he was treating me. I felt really bad that I blurted that out, and I do say mean things sometimes in defense which I know is something I need to work on, but none the less, it slipped out of my lips and theres no taking it back now.