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Title: Questions in my mind today for UBPD husband Post by: lifeshouldlive on June 03, 2013, 01:55:18 AM I am not native English speaker but I meet same situation as many people here so I want to go on post here to exchange the ideas .
after inspired by the sentence " before you make things better please stop make things worse" ,this weekend we did not have any unpleasant situation, but few times he asked me are you ok ? not moody ?etc, I replied with "ok" to end all possible unhappy conversation. Even now i am not sure what he has BPD or non-BPD I already realized if i want our relationship go on that is sure i will be the one who is more tolerent and understaning trying to understand his view in his position. i have some quesiton in my mind now: - BPD know they have this disorder or they do not know at all ? - if alwasy not speak my own feeling in case to avoid the negative atmosphere between us does it make them more disorder if what they feel from us is not what we really think ? - if BPD still sometimes care of others have a little sense of responsibility ,that is normal ? I really want to tell him i think you have BPD and want to help him but i do not know how to start it . Title: Re: Questions in my mind today for UBPD husband Post by: lifeshouldlive on June 04, 2013, 08:18:55 PM Sometimes he is easy to see some people I also think abnormal but when i speak to him about some of his behaviors he always have reason to explain and think it is normal.
can does it also same if you plan to talk to your husband about soemthing ,he seems only listening but no feedback , for me i need alwyas push him to speak something deeper in his mind for sharing ? anyway do not be sad at least we are still alive and can support by people who has same situation in this world . |