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Title: Even though you can have them, you'll end up losing yourself Post by: tobeme on June 10, 2013, 06:01:05 PM Divorce has been final from uBPD ex-wife for a few months but i still greive the death of marriage (16 yrs). During divorce process i was good at NC for 10 months. After we signed divorce settlement, we recycled. Of course we live seperately but we were back at it (sex) for 6 months recycle.
The 6 months went through another full cycle of BPD - to her finally raging at me then "I abondoned her all over again". Our son graduated high school and will soon be adult aged. I just turned 38 and had enough of her (i've been with her since high school). I put her into FINAL NC and it's been about a month so far so good. She still texts and calls at random hours. I only answered her call once and what a mistake it was - set me back. I don't respond to her texts but i still read them. It's hard to let go of the one one you love even though you can have them, you'll end up losing yourself Title: Re: Even though you can have them, you'll end up losing yourself Post by: seeking balance on June 10, 2013, 06:09:34 PM It's hard to let go of the one one you love even though you can have them, you'll end up losing yourself There is nothing easy about a divorce, BPD or not. Sounds like you have been with her most of your adult life, as such, please give yourself the time necessary to really grieve. Take good care, SB |