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Title: Wife walks out on daughters theropy session and refuses to go back Post by: cal644 on June 12, 2013, 07:39:13 AM The other day I received a call from my stbexw that she walked out on my daughters theropy session and will never go back. She kept slamming her theropist saying that she was saying how she's not a Christian, how the theropist accused her of being a bad mom, etc. So yesterday I called the theropist to get the "true" story. It was the same conversation the Theropist had with me about how its not a good idea to date for a year or two for our daughters sake. It is funny how the true version was so different, and the theropist mentioned how there have been 3 incidents with my wife in maybe 6 total sessions with her that she has never had in all of her years of counciling. She mentioned how passive agressive my stbexw was (funny part is that's what my wife said I was). I know for people with BPD theropy is tough - but to walk out and refuse to go back for your daughters sake is a totally different picture. It just shows me how little it is about my daughter but how it is all about my wife. It's funny that for months my stbexw has painted this theropist black (even though she was highly recommended by my T, and my wifes T) but I think its easier from my stbexw to run from her issues than to hear them from anyone and when things get called out she turns everyone black. The theropist said it was interesting that the whole 20 minute session before she walked out all my stbexw wanted to do was make it about me, how I'm bad, how I'm evil, how I filed, how my daughter has issues with me. But the T said she knows what to expect with me, she knows the relationship with my daughter is great, she knows that I am a good person, she knows that I put my daughter first.
Title: Re: Wife walks out on daughters theropy session and refuses to go back Post by: marbleloser on June 12, 2013, 08:23:32 AM It's good to get that validation from someone isn't it?
Your stbx probably DID hear that from the T.In her mind,when your D's T said that about dating,your stbx translated it into everything she falsely claimed the T of saying. Title: Re: Wife walks out on daughters theropy session and refuses to go back Post by: Matt on June 12, 2013, 10:53:25 AM How old is your daughter?
Who does she live with most of the time? And how do you think she's doing? Title: Re: Wife walks out on daughters theropy session and refuses to go back Post by: cal644 on June 12, 2013, 03:25:38 PM My daughter is 13 and we have as of now true joint custody - 1 week on 1 week off. I can tell my daughter is still struggling as she along with myself thought we had the perfect family until the 6 months prior when I was turned black. My daughter is always pretty cheery around me but we have a super relationship - my wife and her have some issues. If anything good has come from this it seems like my wife is at least trying to get along with her now - but the weird thing is my wife is almost reverting to a middle school girl (maybe that's part of the mirroring) and when my daughter is with her she does some things that seem immature for a 37 year old woman. Constant texting, constant girl gossip about boys, constant shopping, etc ... . stuff like that.
Title: Re: Wife walks out on daughters theropy session and refuses to go back Post by: Matt on June 12, 2013, 04:37:03 PM Has your wife been diagnosed?
You might want to consider filing a motion for psych evals (for both parents) - a Ph.D. psychologist and objective testing. If she has BPD or something similar, the behavior is likely to get worse, and the damage to the child can be serious over time. Best to find out what it is, and then research how that adds risk to the child, so the court can take that into account. For example, if she has BPD, and you read "Understanding The Borderline Mother", you might decide to go for primary custody, with supervised visitation for her mom, to minimize the risk. |