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Title: So Who Holds The Record Before Contact Is Re-Established? Post by: Willingtolearn on June 13, 2013, 03:15:34 PM We all know that once they break up the relationship with us, there is always a possibility they will try and recycle us. So what length of time did you have complete NC before they tried to re-engage with you? I have heard that some can go for years before they try to recycle us again. My exBPDgf tried to recycle after 14 months 100% NC.
So who has had the longest NC period amongst fellow members of BPD Family? Title: Re: So Who Holds The Record Before Contact Is Re-Established? Post by: confetti on June 13, 2013, 03:35:03 PM Some of the members have mentioned after 2 years NC.
I think after a while we pray they stay away, though, so... . Title: Re: So Who Holds The Record Before Contact Is Re-Established? Post by: Octoberfest on June 13, 2013, 04:47:39 PM I made it a week here recently :)
I'll take my trophy now. Oh, and to be clear, it was ME that lasted the week, not her. Title: Re: So Who Holds The Record Before Contact Is Re-Established? Post by: recoil on June 13, 2013, 05:05:54 PM I think it's Charred? Something like 20+ years his ex came back.
Title: Re: So Who Holds The Record Before Contact Is Re-Established? Post by: seeking balance on June 13, 2013, 06:13:05 PM I think Turtle had something like 7 years or so under her belt when that random call came in... .
I made it a week here recently :) I'll take my trophy now. Oh, and to be clear, it was ME that lasted the week, not her. That is funny! Title: Re: So Who Holds The Record Before Contact Is Re-Established? Post by: Murbay on June 13, 2013, 06:22:09 PM My exBPDw, actually gave me indications at the end of our marriage that I would be recycled again. It's funny because although T is the one who diagnosed her, she doesn't actually know it is her with BPD but she identifies with all the traits in herself and just views them as normal.
Aside from the Liz Taylor comment on the morning she decided on the divorce, her other words were "It's just not our time but I do want to spend my life with you so I'm sure when it is our time, we will find each other again" It's been almost 6 weeks NC now but she has tried to engage every week so far in very bizarre ways. Honestly, I don't want to go NC because I have a 2 year old daughter there, but T advised it is the best solution right now because I'm painted black and any efforts to be involved with my daughter and step daughter will just be used for control. I have no doubt that I will most likely break NC, but at a time when I am detached, have healthy boundaries enforced and able to function without being drawn in. 20 years is a pretty good record to beat, oh the joys of the internet :) |