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Well it´s been now 2 weeks of NC and I´m feeling better in many ways. I have come to terms that the relationship was not healthy at all but still I feel kind of traumatized.

I´m having a lot of nightmares and dreams about her. Even waking up and thinking she is in the room or I will check the phone if she called me.

I´s really making me tired. I´ve been drinking a little bit more than usual and I think I have to take better physical care of myself.

The hardest part is when i´m alone. Going to sleep or waking up. Or walk by places that remind me of her.

My friend told me she has a quite "sexy" FB photo so I guess she is gone "gone" hunting and I just know she will find another guy soon or she could be dating. It will be a little painful when I know who that will be.

But still i´ve told our mutual friends I dont want to know anything about her, talk about her.

But I´m kind of depressed at times but also feeling better not being in this torment of talking to her or she contacting me.

This can be so difficult sometimes.

Yes, it can be difficult! 

I agree with you about drinking less would be good. Do you have a plan to do so? What can help you with it?

Which moments are the better ones?

First of all, keep up the good work. :)

The first few weeks are probably the hardest and so if you can get through this it should get a little bit easier. I drank a little more after my break up, I don't think its anything to be too alarmed about especially since you recognize it and you can adjust yourself to drink less. Working out for me was the best thing to help me over come the first few months. Eating healthy was also something I started doing, try to do positive things for you and before long the habit of your ex will slowly diminished. Im at about seven months of NC with my ex and my life is so much more relaxed and im doing things I always wanted to do and im having fun. Keep with it because at the end of this is a happier you.

Hey Tomjon!

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Keep up the good work! Think of how far you've come in a short time! I know it sounds very cliche, however, time is your friend and it does get easier with each passing day.

I found that developing some sort of regiment and being proactive in my healing was very helpful. Getting up at the same time every day, exercising, meditating, praying, whatever is part of your day to day. It keeps you on track. I also set small goals for myself, about getting things done around the house, and making plans with friends and family.

Bottom line is, the further you get from the toxicity, the better you'll feel. If you already feel progress, you have much to look forward to!

Best Wishes,

Val78

youve made it this far, you can keep going, yes you will feel painful memories, yes you will miss her, yes you will think of her alot, this is all normal, it takes a long time to grieve the person you lost.

Keep knowing that you are not alone, alot of us hear view and answer to posts, knowing the feelings you are having.

Try to stay as positive as you can and know you are on a road to a healthier you.