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Title: how to separate from BPD girlfriend without she getting suicidal Post by: hopefulforfuture on June 22, 2013, 11:29:26 AM Dear Friends ,
I am new to this site (yesterday) . I am planning to separate from my BPD girlfriend of 4 months mainly because of emotional abuse and also she has no empathy for my chronic depression . She is not ready to see a therapist claiming she is normal but she exhibits all the classic symptoms of BPD . I briefly mentioned that i am not happy in relationship and also has told that i am not feeling well because of depression . Ours is long distance relationship . If my mind is made up on leaving what is best way to stop this relationship 1. Run away assuming she will manage as she briefly threatened suicide when i barely mentioned i am not happy in relationship 2 . Increasingly stress on my depression saying i cant talk properly and act confused and try to bore her 3 Explain i am not interested in continuing ( she is not ready for adult conversation ) Please help ... . Should i go suddenly non contact ? Title: Re: how to separate from BPD girlfriend without she getting suicidal Post by: gonesouth on June 23, 2013, 01:10:41 AM Become a detached friend, then break it off after a while. Sounds like my wife exactly. I'm starting a divorce and bought and read the book "BIFF". I talks about communicating with high conflict people by being Brief, Informative, Friendly, and FIRM. I can't explain it completely like the author Bill Eddy does, but I gives you tools to deal with this situation. For me it helps me keep my sanity.
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