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Title: default Judgment entered June 19th Post by: gina louise on June 23, 2013, 11:14:17 AM Well, I am relieved. It's over.
Even with a sincere attempt on my part to reconcile and more time spent together-My h went ahead and filed the default judgment that was signed April 15th.(during our attempted reconciliation!) During the time we tried-or at least I tried-he was still irrational, inconsistent and unreliable. I guess I had to see that again-with a more unbiased set of eyes. I felt a recoil that I had not felt when we had been dating-or as a married couple. I guess I had become more self protective? The default was his L's ace in the hole. I am not surprised in the least. My L had all but dropped out of the picture. I am perfectly OK with this. I couldn't afford anymore legal fees right now. And I need nothing further from him. I got my spousal support, late- but better than nothing. And I got the closure that I sought. I am two weeks away from completing my specialist in Paralegal studies courses.(with an A average, too!) I can say that I feel more calm, more contented and more at peace than in many months. Life just keeps getting better and better for me. I hope it will for You all, as well. GL Title: Re: default Judgment entered June 19th Post by: catnap on June 23, 2013, 11:36:13 AM Congrats to you on both having closure and your wonderful scholastic achievement!
Title: Re: default Judgment entered June 19th Post by: gina louise on June 23, 2013, 11:50:35 AM TY very much.
It's been a journey, for sure. and I can't say it's all been awful. I learned so much about my Self. My inner workings, my hidden agendas, my values and my Truths. My pwUBPD has been one of my life's biggest Teachers. So I can't regret the lessons I have learned-to trust the trustworthy, to value my Self first, to listen to my Inner voice of Reason. To follow My Path... . the one I chose. If I take away nothing else-the r/s has been of immense value for me. GL Title: Re: default Judgment entered June 19th Post by: Surnia on June 25, 2013, 10:15:52 AM Gina louise
And congrats and a big and a special divorced mittle age woman Great you found your path :) Title: Re: default Judgment entered June 19th Post by: gina louise on June 27, 2013, 11:56:24 AM thanks very much-
right back! and the I LOVE being who I AM! I am so grateful to this site for helping open my eyes to what emotional abuse really is. and the wonderful people that have walked this path before me have been nothing but helpful. I feel like I am standing in no one's shadow anymore. I have very few regrets. I am doing exactly what I set out to do! I feel strong, capable and accomplished. Took my last exam-My Certification for Paralegal is completed! Got a job interview at a local law firm later today. (I applied 3 days ago with just a resume) The firm mentors employees who wish to attend law school. That's my ultimate goal. GL |