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Title: Who is your support system? Post by: changingme on June 23, 2013, 01:11:54 PM Just curious for those parents out there, especially the single ones, who is your support system while you are supporting your child with BPD?
As we know BPD in a relationship is hard for people to understand and I feel I am having the same frustrations when it comes to D13. Ironically the only person on this earth that "gets it" and can help is her father (who is my ex pwBPD and undiagnosed). Title: Re: Who is your support system? Post by: lbjnltx on June 23, 2013, 01:40:30 PM In no certain order:
Outpatient family therapist Inpatient treatment team while in RTC This site My mother who knows about her diagnoses My husband (her dad) My God Title: Re: Who is your support system? Post by: twojaybirds on June 23, 2013, 02:15:15 PM Single mom here with 19dd and here is my support system I order:
long term female friend who totally gets it and teaches boundary setting at the university level and lives about 2 hours away this site great female friend who understands MI works in human services but also struggles with depression herself and lives in town fairly new boyfriend who is committed to understanding and learning professional female friend who has a son with schizophrenia (onset age 23 after completing college with no prior suspicions) Title: Re: Who is your support system? Post by: BioAdoptMom3 on June 23, 2013, 04:32:53 PM You are right. Most people who haven't dealt with this just do not get it. I am so tired of hearing:
That is a bunch of bologna. All she wants is attention and she knows she has you where she wants you! How in the world can she fear rejection when she knows you adopted her and loved her (sorry, but at almost 14 she knows she had to be rejected before she could be loved by someone else)? She's just a normal teenager with raging hormones (sorry again, but normal teens do not cut themselves, starve themselves and purge their food)! And the list goes on and on as I am sure yours does too! My heart goes out to you dealing with this as a single mom! I tend to rely a lot on this board, NAMI and my best friend who also has a DD adopted out of foster care and shows BPD traits. Have you checked to see if there are any support groups in your area for parents of kids who have a mental/emotional illness diagnosis? and prayers! Title: Re: Who is your support system? Post by: Reality on June 23, 2013, 04:38:25 PM changingtimes,
If your ex understands her, that is very good. Does he have a lot of contact with your daughter? Support can be found in unusual places... . Reality Title: Re: Who is your support system? Post by: changingme on June 23, 2013, 05:59:58 PM Bioadoptmom3,
I hear a lot "she is just a teen" I haven't looked into support groups yet, but that is a good idea. Reality, Yes contact everyday, they have a good relationship. I agree it is very good. It's not the best for me though because it makes it hard to completely detach. I know I need at least someone/something else to lean on so there is a healthier balance for me. Title: Re: Who is your support system? Post by: lbjnltx on June 23, 2013, 09:43:12 PM Changing times,
Have you viewed this video? https://bpdfamily.blogspot.com/2013/05/bpdfamily.html You could check and see if there is a Family Connections program run by the NEA BPD in your area. If not, NAMI is a close second. |