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Such an expensive and draining struggle.  BPD daughter in law is so talented when it comes to lying and making up horror stories, turning people against the family.  How does a person fight this?  We will have some visitation at present and hope to have more in the future.  How does one counter or reduce the effect of alienation of the children?

 *welcome*

I'm sorry for the circumstances that brought you here.  Lots of us here have been through divorce with BPD's.  It's a draining, ugly process, and it doesn't end when the divorce is over.

We've got a couple of boards where you can engage people that are dealing with similar things.

Leaving Board: Family law, divorce and custody (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=10.0)

as well as this one which might have some help for you too.

Parenting after the Split (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=9.0)

Check out the pinned threads at the top to start with.  There will be lots of good information.

Hi monolithic80,

*welcome* Jumping in here to welcome you too! I'm sorry that you are feeling drained right now. There are so many of us here who have family members with BPD, so you are not alone. We know what it's like to experience smear campaigns, ugly stories, and lies about us. Oftentimes to our family members, their version of the events is entirely true because of the disorder. How much contact do you have with your son, DIL, and grandchildren?

You came to the right place for information and support. Waddams posted some great links that will probably be helpful to you. This article may also help you to understand where your grandchildren are at: How a Mother with Borderline Personality Disorder Affects Her Children (https://bpdfamily.com/tools/articles8.htm)

Keep posting and sharing. We're here for you, and I know you will fit in here. Sending you lots of caring and support.