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Title: Victims of FOG Post by: hanginon on July 20, 2013, 08:54:31 AM It may well be somewhere here on these boards or workshops and I just haven't run across it yet, but I found something just doing rambling searches about FOG on the internet. I have been doing some self examination wondering why I have been so susceptable to her FOG/control in the past. I found an article on another web site and it was broken down into very simple terms, terms that I felt I had to take ownership of and make it a point to improve on these traits as much as I can as part of my personal growth.
It noted that the part of us that opens "us" up to emotional blackmail are: "An excessive need for approval, An intense fear of anger, A need for peace at any price, A tendency to take too much responsibility for other people's lives, A high level of self-doubt." Not that these are all bad traits but are the traits that we have that leave us vulnerable to a pwBPD. I realize this may be common knowledge for some but for whatever reason I found it profound. Hanginon Title: Re: Victims of FOG Post by: lemiwinks on July 20, 2013, 09:29:36 AM Can you put the link up? I've never heard this expression FOG. Most likely have been a victim of it though... .
Title: Re: Victims of FOG Post by: Surnia on July 20, 2013, 10:15:41 AM Hanginon
yes, good points, all these behaviours were valable for me too ... . Many of us bring our own issues in the rs. And yes, there is a workshop here about FOG: What it means to be in the FOG (https://bpdfamily.com/content/emotional-blackmail-fear-obligation-and-guilt-fog). |