Title: ex-BPDwife's new boyfriend is stalking me Post by: expos on July 22, 2013, 02:06:23 PM Well apparently something is going on... .
My ex-BPDwife's new boyfriend is stalking me. First it was looking at my LinkedIn profile for a couple weeks a row, then... . it was visiting my URL where I post personal work. I noticed a large increase in traffic from him once I told my ex-BPDwife that I was seeing someone and I posted Facebook photos of us (me and my new girl) together. My ex-BPDwife shouldn't give a damn! And neither should her new boyfriend! I can only imagine what she's telling him about me... . i hate to say it's validating that I wasn't totally forgot... . but it's crap like this that keeps us from healing... . Title: Re: ex-BPDwife's new boyfriend is stalking me Post by: delusionalxox on July 22, 2013, 02:39:04 PM That's really weird but how do you know who is looking at your LinkedIn profile? Mine won't show me strangers who visit unless I get premium membership or something. Maybe you could suspend that so you dont' have to know who is looking? After all it only damages you to feel that 'reconnection' (don't I know it :/)
So if you have a personal website can you automatically track whoever visits it. B*gger. When I was in my obsessive phase a few weeks ago I googled ex a lot and looked a few times at his website. Will he be notified of that? Urrrrgh. Title: Re: ex-BPDwife's new boyfriend is stalking me Post by: expos on July 22, 2013, 03:02:22 PM LinkedIn has a side panel that shows what people recently viewed your profile. He was showing up every week for the past month. My photo is on LinkedIn as well.
I can track the guy via his IP address. After I was notified of the guy who started dating my ex-wife after I left her, I looked him up on Facebook so that I knew what he looked like and to avoid him if I ever saw him in public. His profile showed his hometown - in the middle of nowhere. That hometown started showing up on my IP tracking logs on my personal site. I have an administrative area that collects the IPs, and since it started showing up repeatedly I got curious and tracked the IP... . and it was him. The guy must be pretty insecure to keep checking on me. We've been separated for a year now, my ex-wife wants nothing to do with me (I assume), and I'm seeing someone anyways. He and my ex have probably visited my Facebook page quite often. Hope they are enjoying the show! :) Title: Re: ex-BPDwife's new boyfriend is stalking me Post by: delusionalxox on July 22, 2013, 04:30:18 PM He sounds a highly insecure individual! Maybe she split you white now and is telling him how wonderful you were/better than him! lol
Hmm, my LinkedIn profile shows me people who viewed me among my connections and then a questionmark (presumably someone from off the Internet). Is he in your connections? Best to take him off I guess I didn't realise it was that easy to trace IP addresses. Eeeeugh. Will stay off ex's site forever now (that was the idea of NC in the first place of course! ) Title: Re: ex-BPDwife's new boyfriend is stalking me Post by: expos on July 22, 2013, 05:04:09 PM He sounds a highly insecure individual! Maybe she split you white now and is telling him how wonderful you were/better than him! lol Hmm, my LinkedIn profile shows me people who viewed me among my connections and then a questionmark (presumably someone from off the Internet). Is he in your connections? Best to take him off I guess I didn't realise it was that easy to trace IP addresses. Eeeeugh. Will stay off ex's site forever now (that was the idea of NC in the first place of course! ) He's not a connection. But we have a lot of mutual connections on Facebook and on LinkedIn because he, myself and my ex-wife all used to work at the same company before I bailed years ago. Yeah... . who knows what has been going on with their relationship. All I know is that ever since I started seeing someone... . things have been wacky. Title: Re: ex-BPDwife's new boyfriend is stalking me Post by: j4c on July 23, 2013, 08:20:36 AM Isn't it possible that its actually your ex wife that's viewing your profile when shes at her new bf's house?
Title: Re: ex-BPDwife's new boyfriend is stalking me Post by: expos on July 23, 2013, 09:23:25 AM Isn't it possible that its actually your ex wife that's viewing your profile when shes at her new bf's house? Oh... . I don't know. They can see everything on Facebook. Also... . both of them are crazy it seems. I've been divorced from her since November. They've been officially together since February, and already he's facebook friends with all of her family and vice versa. If I'm in the past... . why do they care so much? I thought I was the one with attachment issues lol |