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Title: Changing ME Post by: mama m on July 24, 2013, 06:54:48 AM So i have decided to keep a "family" relationship with the enabling family members around my BPD MIL. They want a relationship and I'm just not ready to walk away from everyone yet.
SO they want to go out to lunch. HOW do I not hate them, yell, punch, resent... . and just become indifferent to them... . so that way we can have a nice 'political' lunch. How do I become indifferent when I'm filled with so much anger and resentment for the past 6 years! Roar... . Title: Re: Changing ME Post by: Santa Clara on July 24, 2013, 01:33:44 PM Hi mama m.
Do you have a therapist? A therapist can be hugely helpful when these kids of situations come up. Good luck. Title: Re: Changing ME Post by: CBoo on July 24, 2013, 04:53:34 PM Are you ok with being angry and feeling resentment? I wouldn't fight these feelings. Accepting them will give you more control - and help you know how to express these safely. Also, think about what soothes you when you feel like that. Remember you are not your feelings... . Oh and... . it took me years to be able to do that! Realised expressing it three lines makes it sound like I think it's easy! |