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Validation:
Encouraging Peace in a BPD Family by Alan Fruzzetti, Ph.D
 

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Alan E. Fruzzetti, PhD  | October 18-19, 2008 Minneapolis, MN
 
Video Description
In his talk on October 18, 2008 in Minneapolis, MN, Alan Fruzzetti, Ph.D explores what it means to give someone a validating response rather than an invalidating response and how validating responses can be used to help a person with high levels of emotional arousal more constructively process their feelings, emotional dysregulation or personal chaos.
 
In this video, Dr. Fruzzetti explains the fine art of "validating" and shows us how easy it is to be invalidating.  He explains that invalidation is not necessarily abusive, mean, neglectful, uncaring or dsyfunctional - it can be caring and well intended - but painful nonetheless.
 
Dr. Fruzzetti recommends that families of a person with BPD also be in therapy as (1) it’s very stressful to have a loved one in emotional chaos and (2) it benefits the person with BPD when the family is part of the solution.
 
Speaker
Alan E. Fruzzetti, Ph.D is Associate Professor of Psychology and Director of the DBT Therapy and Research Program at the University of Nevada, and Research Advisor Member of the Board of Directors of the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEA-BPD).
 
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If you are staying with someone who has BPD or BPD traits and you have not watched this video, I highly recommend you watch it.  I did not understand validation until I watched this video. 

Thanks for posting this!     |iiii

Can someone post the link to the book? I can't find it on Amazon or elsewhere.  Thanks!

Hi malibu4x,

This is the only book I know of by Alan Fruzzetti, and it's highly recommended:

https://bpdfamily.com/book-reviews/high-conflict-couple