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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: HealingHearts on July 27, 2013, 09:36:13 PM



Title: Putting the pieces back together
Post by: HealingHearts on July 27, 2013, 09:36:13 PM
We were shattered... .

We have been working very hard on processing our past and understanding who we are

We have unearthed heaps of hurt and suffering including VA, PA, EA, and SA starting as a toddler

We now know we have a dissociative disorder

As a means of self-preservation we created selves that endured our abuse

this allowed us to live in the world as an "normal" kid

it allowed us to believe that TheMother had our best interests at heart

when in reality she could care less.

We are NC

this has been the best thing for us

we are working though flashbacks, body memories, intrusive thoughts

All remnants of her sadistic abuse

We must breathe,

focus on here and now,

acknowledge our experience,

accept our past,

care for our precious little ones

have self-compassion


Title: Re: Putting the pieces back together
Post by: catsprt on July 28, 2013, 07:39:28 PM
We grew up with sick or difficult ones

Bending and hiding to carry our load

Until it grew too heavy

Until we realized that we were alone

For each step that I take forward there is a moment of imbalance

The pain of detaching is at its worst

But I know that I need to keep going

As it is the only way forward


Title: Re: Putting the pieces back together
Post by: HealingHearts on July 28, 2013, 09:50:28 PM
yep

keep going

it is the only way

good for you

hh