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So I'm getting sucked back in for the same reason as the first time.  Pity.  After roughly 2 months of splitting me black, I'm back on the light side and I'm fairly certain there's a recycle attempt going on.  I've done by best to avoid, but she's made it difficult.  I've been blocked and unblocked on facebook a number of times in the past few weeks, not having accepted until just recently (due to our living situation I think that's easier than blocking her).  It seems ignoring her was too much.  Now she's seeking me out and trying repeatedly to engage in conversation, and last night I finally gave in, against my better judgment.

I was a bit inebriated after a night out and outside she comes, her mascara running, and she's upset .  So, of course, I played right into the pity party and ended up talking with her for hours.  But, I suppose at least one good thing came out of it.  I learned that my acknowledgment and validation skills are improving.  Sometimes it's hard to find how to phrase

it.  (damn it, hit enter too soon).

Anyway, I'm going to take a step back again for my own health and safety and go back to avoiding 1on1 time and stay in big groups.  I know it's a cycle and soon enough, even with my newfound communication skills, I'll be an ass once again.

I did the same thing as this 3 months ago. It's rough man, genuinely wanting to help someone who is miserable, and them being radically miserable (often for trivial reasons) - makes you feel like a good person to be able to help them and make them happy. In my case I'm pretty sure she's adopted me as the father figure she's missing and any tiny insecurity or negative emotion that crosses her mind, she's going on about it to me. But of course, not matter how much of a hero you are today, if you fail to walk on eggshells tomorrow, you'll be an ass. Painful