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Title: Was I wrong - setting this boundary Post by: cal644 on August 16, 2013, 07:03:21 AM Was I wrong - today my exw is going to pick up her furniture which she gets from the divorce. As per her request I moved everything into the garage - 1st one demand which I comply too, then another demand or attack which I comply too, finally she wanted to come into the house with her "friends" when I was not here - I didn't give into this demand as per my attorney, councilor, and friends recommendation. Then she flew off the handle - how could I not trust her (umm maybe because you have proven yourself untrustworthy) then she flew into the if you ever step a foot in my house I am going to call the cops. I don't feel that I am wrong saying no - I did tell her that if it was the old wife I knew and loved I wouldn't have a problem with it - the problem is I don't know who she is anymore. So was I wrong?
Title: Re: Was I wrong - setting this boundary Post by: Chunkybeah on August 16, 2013, 07:32:54 AM No- my sister has BPD- and the thing is, they can't accept the word,"no." It's just that its so much easier to give in then deal with the threats and rage that it almost feels wrong when we assert ourselves. Good for you. Stay strong and try to emotionally detach yourself.
Time will help Title: Re: Was I wrong - setting this boundary Post by: marbleloser on August 16, 2013, 08:24:35 AM Hell no you weren't wrong! I'd pile her crap out in the lawn and have a police officer there when she came to pick it up.But,that's just me :)
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