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Title: How did she hide their resentment so well Post by: cal644 on August 20, 2013, 03:22:40 PM Here is a question I still struggle with. My ex told me she hadn't loved me and resented me for years. How did she hide it so well, how didn't I or anyone we knew have a clue. I guess that is just one of the things that shocked the hell out of me, just being blindsided, this was shortly before I found out about her affairs.
Title: Re: How did she hide their resentment so well Post by: mitchell16 on August 20, 2013, 03:49:02 PM in my opinion it was just away of justfying what she did. Mine always jusfied her actions and codemened mine. Also a way of hurting you. Just my opinion.
Title: Re: How did she hide their resentment so well Post by: Surnia on August 20, 2013, 03:55:49 PM cal644
I hear your struggles and I would be shocked too. Perhaps you can step a bit back: Words are sometimes black ice. I could also imagine that she painted the past black to justify the next rs. Title: Re: How did she hide their resentment so well Post by: goldylamont on August 20, 2013, 04:22:59 PM i think this is a good question. I agree with mitchell16 that first of all she's probably just trying to justify her betrayals; and second i think she's trying to be spiteful and inflict more pain on you. my ex told me after our r/s that her biggest mistake was staying with me for years when she not only didn't love me but loathed who i was--it's all a bunch of BS. truth is she's tortured all the time and i was never the reason. and she was just really pissed at me for taking control and ending the r/s and wanted to try and hurt me in return to restore some kind of power for herself. i consider pretty much anything she says as lies now anyway, regardless of what she "thinks" she "feels"
Title: Re: How did she hide their resentment so well Post by: seeking balance on August 20, 2013, 05:07:49 PM Here is a question I still struggle with. My ex told me she hadn't loved me and resented me for years. How did she hide it so well, how didn't I or anyone we knew have a clue. I guess that is just one of the things that shocked the hell out of me, just being blindsided, this was shortly before I found out about her affairs. Simple - she was surviving the way she knew how, it wasn't about you - it was about her survival. |