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Title: she cant look into my eyes Post by: rich5a on August 30, 2013, 11:43:55 PM my BPDgf can never look me in the eye... if I try and to engage eye contact she will deflect it, either verbally... or she will close her eyes. while making love our eyes never connect. its frigtening... . the avoidance technique is so strong. she locks you out of her world. anyone experience this?
Title: Re: she cant look into my eyes Post by: Aussie0zborn on August 31, 2013, 02:11:38 AM Yes. While making love mine ALWAYS had her eyes closed as if to say, "I am ready now - transport me to where I want to go" (if you know what I mean). I never liked it but in the devaluation stage, I realized I could have been anybody that was offering to take her to that place.
It sounds like yours is afraid that you will see into her soul. I can understand how off putting this is. Title: Re: she cant look into my eyes Post by: rich5a on August 31, 2013, 02:45:44 PM Aussie... lol... cool name.
Its true... I suppose it could be anyone. I am just an object ultimately. I am going to be persistent and ask her to look in my eyes... she instantly becomes uncomfortable. If I suceed... I am sure she will push away the next day. |