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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: shaggysoul on September 09, 2013, 08:50:20 AM



Title: I unblocked his facebook page
Post by: shaggysoul on September 09, 2013, 08:50:20 AM
I unblocked his facebook page. How stupid could I be. I know it used to irritate him that I blocked him before he blocked me... .meaning I have power. I would like to point out that adults don't usually think about that sort of thing... .and I didn't, until he came around.  With him (42years old) it was commonplace to unfriend your SO when you had a fight. Sometimes I didn't even realize we were fighting until I would wake up to a blocked facebook page and an apparently blocked phone number (I still can't figure out how to block phone numbers on iphones).


So I unblocked the page. I should state that I have not seen him since July 4th, when he came into town briefly from NYC, had sex with me and told me "that he didn't think I would ever be remotely important to him again". Bam. It has taken me since then to get over that sting.  I don't know why I unblocked the page... .I'm stupid. But what it had on it was so hard to believe. His banner photo (his page's background photo) is a panoramic view of a hotel room with the sheets all messed up in the bed, he is sitting in the corner looking sexed out. The photo is taken by his new girlfriend and all the comments are like "get a room you two, oh wait... .you already did. Love you two together!xxoo!".

I'm going crazy. Who puts that up as their background? Hotels used to be our thing. I told him how much I loved them and he would take me to a new one every weekend and we would make love all night. It was super. I feel like this is a direct slap in the face. I will never understand why this guy has so much animosity towards me. At all. I did NOTHING. And he HATES me. I don't get it. And he can't explain it.

Also, it's really gross to display your sex life like that. I would be so embarrassed.

I hope she is starting to get that gut feeling that something is deeply wrong with him. I got it pretty fast. But I had no idea the evil that was beneath it. I have never seen anything like it.



Title: Re: Facebook Fun
Post by: Moonie75 on September 09, 2013, 09:18:03 AM
To block numbers on iphones you need to get an 'app' called 'iBlacklist'.

I used it last year & it did work to block calls from her, but occasionally txt messages did leak through the filter.


And I'm so sorry you had to see stuff like that on his fb. I look at my ex differently now I'm out of the relationship & I'm sometimes ashamed that she is an ex of mine. It can be embarrassing to think that someone with so little idea how they make themselves look was once your SO.









Title: Re: Facebook Fun
Post by: confusedandscared on September 09, 2013, 09:24:23 AM
Hi, first of all when the new version of the iPhone OS comes out maybe as soon as this week you will be able to block numbers on it very easily. You can block calls, texts, iMessage's. It will not block voicemails, it instead leaves them in your voicemail under blocked.

I too am considering unblocking her from Facebook, it is very childish to block someone and quite frankly I don't see the point of it as it is very high school at times. She does however have a fake profile set up so she can see what I am up to, she did admit that to me once that she did that because she was able to see a page a liked and got mad. That was ages ago so now I have my page locked up so no one apart from a friend can see anything on there. I do dread unblocking her, even though we have been talking and the like, she does keep her Facebook pretty much private, which to me is pretty dumb as it's only Facebook and posting things like her did is just insane.


Title: Re: I unblocked his facebook page
Post by: Ironmanrises on September 09, 2013, 10:06:26 AM
I permanently closed my Facebook and Instagram accounts after she left me the second time.

She cannot track me via either one like the way she did before.

She stalked me through both after she left me first time from fake accounts.

That portal has to remain sealed.

A huge sacrifice on my part?... .Yes.




Title: Re: I unblocked his facebook page
Post by: heartandwhole on September 09, 2013, 10:09:06 AM
shaggysoul,

I'm sorry you had to see that on his FB page, that is very painful.  I know I would be very upset.  I'm not on FB, but I remember looking at his web page sometimes after we broke up, and it upset me greatly (and there weren't even photos!).

For many of us, looking at FB = pain.  When it hurts bad enough, we stop.  It's like we trade one pain for another - we often choose the pain of finding out what our exes are doing without us, so we can stay focused on them, because the pain of having to feel what is inside of us without a buffer or distraction is, well, too painful.  

The second option is inevitable if we want to get better.  


Title: Re: I unblocked his facebook page
Post by: shaggysoul on September 09, 2013, 10:30:14 AM
Hey now, it was a momentary lapse. I do not stalk his anything. This was one night of doing something dumb after months of being good. The pain of seeing that kind of thing to me is so painful that I normally would NEVER seek it out. I don't know why in that moment I fell. I regretted and now he is blocked again. On the bright side, I was so offended by this public display that I erased all my stupid music playlists full of breakup songs and I finally feel like I am just freaking angry. About it all. He was so horrible to me. He will be horrible to her. She must feel in her bones he is too good to be true. That there is something else there. Something scary.