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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: Chosen on September 12, 2013, 03:41:16 AM



Title: Checking in
Post by: Chosen on September 12, 2013, 03:41:16 AM
Good to be back here.

After the whole internet issue at work, the boss has now got pretty strict "no non-work webpages" policies in place.  So, I'm not really able to be on here all the time, except during breaks.  But things have been ok.  Not good, not perfect, but ok, like any marriage.  Things at work have been making me mad because my boss (who has some psychiatric disorder; depression?  anxiety?  I'm not sure) suddenly lashed out at me, and also cc. to her boss as well.  I don't know how that will affect my career.

Just yesterday uBPDh suddenly sent me a text saying "It is impossible for anyone to have children with you, because when you decide on something/ think something is right, you just go ahead and do it regardless what others say.  It only works if you are a single parent." 

As this was unprovoked, I calmly texted back and asked if he could give me an example so I will know what he is referring to.  He just said "It's some general food for thought" and moved on to another topic.  While I'm glad I didn't lose my temper or get over-sensitive, it of course bugs me.  Because I know that no matter what, I am always this selfish, incapable person.  I know that it's not true, but still it doesn't feel good to be looked upon in this way. 


Title: Re: Checking in
Post by: eeyore on September 12, 2013, 06:03:30 AM
thanks for the update. Sorry to hear about your boss. Maybe a little validation with her?  Keep doing your job she will most likely move on to another person.  Or Do you think the home stress could be affecting your work?