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Title: Break NC Post by: StandUpGuy on September 19, 2013, 01:32:11 PM What are some of the things your ex has texted or said that would make you want to break No Contact? What are some tricks I should watch out for? Is there any way to get my point across without just ignoring them? Feel free to give personal examples please, and thank you. I love this site so much, it's really helped me out the past few weeks.
Title: Re: Break NC Post by: Undine on September 20, 2013, 02:54:36 PM Hi Standup-I have not had my SO break no contact this time- I actually had to be pretty mean about it at the end. He was very angry & hateful & this relieved me because I felt he would be punishing me by not speaking to me. It worked quite well. I haven't had to deal w/any of the out-of-the blue text messages or emails. I have had an increase in unknown number calls since the breakup. I never answer them. Ignoring their efforts has been the best approach for many in your situation. I know it is hard but you have to put yourself 1st. Hang in there & keep posting-especially when you feel yourself wavering. It really seems to help.
Title: Re: Break NC Post by: Lucky Jim on September 20, 2013, 03:46:57 PM Hey Standup, Those with BPD can be a devious bunch and will try anything to get a reaction out of you. I spent years banging my head against the wall, trying to get my point across in a marriage to a pwBPD, which was an exercise in frustration. Has your Ex reached out to you? Forewarned is forearmed, as they say. Lucky Jim
Title: Re: Break NC Post by: Aussie0zborn on September 20, 2013, 04:20:21 PM The first trick to watch our for is you not blocking this person's number from your 'phone.
As for getting your point across without ignoring them, have you ever gotten your point across with this person? |