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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD => Topic started by: Heartbroken Daughter on September 23, 2013, 12:37:14 PM



Title: Looking for short articles or lists of behavior/symptoms to send with a letter
Post by: Heartbroken Daughter on September 23, 2013, 12:37:14 PM
I'm in the process of writing my younger brother a letter, he won't talk to me because our mother has thrown him in the middle of everything and I've finally shut her out of my life and am seeking therapy. Anyway I was wondering if anyone had any links they could share I'm looking for short articles or a list explaining symptoms or behavior of BPD that isn't to heavy just something that might make him think even if it's not right away maybe it clicks when he see's the behavior again in front of him if that makes sense. I just want him to start to accept that her behaviors not normal so maybe he'll seek some help and acknowledge the affect this has had on him. Any help is appreciated.  :)


Title: Re: Looking for short articles or lists of behavior/symptoms to send with a letter
Post by: DaughterofDD on September 23, 2013, 01:09:42 PM
Hi Heartbroken Daughter, 

Invalidating and frustrating, huh? 

In my experience, most people caught in the triangle just want to get out and not "choose sides."  With all the information that I sent to people who were brought into my uBPD mother's attack on me, each of them would just delete the email I sent without reading it fully.  Only when a psychiatrist diagnosed her as having Delusional Disorder (I honestly believe incorrectly) did anyone pay any attention to those symptoms. 

After several years of witnessing her behavior in my absence did they finally come to some of the same conclusions I did.  Still, the only ones who truly KNOW her full range of behaviors are my siblings and I.  I had to learn to let go of what others thought of me, and it was very difficult to do. 

These are all from reputable sites, and essentially they all say the same things.  He may find WebMD and MayoClinic recognizable, but those don't go into much detail.  Any Google search of Borderline Personality Disorder will give you essentially the same thing, so you might even suggest he do that on his own or cut & paste the list of symptoms within the email you send with a link to the source.  That way, he can just read short bullet points without having to go further until he is ready to do so on his own. 

I wish you the best of luck!   


www.psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-of-borderline-personality-disorder/0001063

www.mayoclinic.com/health/borderline-personality-disorder/DS00442/DSECTION=symptoms

www.webmd.com/mental-health/tc/borderline-personality-disorder-topic-overview

www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder


Title: Re: Looking for short articles or lists of behavior/symptoms to send with a letter
Post by: Heartbroken Daughter on September 23, 2013, 02:45:50 PM


Thank you so much for the links I know I could have found them on my own but I've been reading so much lately I wasn't sure what to use if that makes any sense and that's exactly how I feel right now invalidated and extremely frustrated not that I ever want anyone else to deal with these emotions but it's nice to know I'm not alone.

Thanks Again