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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: lisasport on September 27, 2013, 10:17:53 PM



Title: stranger
Post by: lisasport on September 27, 2013, 10:17:53 PM
Caught my bp cheating. Went back to talk to him and he closed the slidding door on my face and shut the curtains! Than blocked my number! What the f... .I can't understand!. Two years together and this is what I get?


Title: Re: stranger
Post by: Surnia on September 27, 2013, 10:44:11 PM
Hi lisasport

so sorry to hear this, looks like he cannot cope with it and is hiding. I would be angry too. 

Unfortunately you cannot force someone to speak with you... .

Is this the first time happening or do you had more on/offs in this rs?


Title: Re: stranger
Post by: Aussie0zborn on September 27, 2013, 10:51:11 PM
Yep, unfortunately this is what you get if you're dealing with a pwBPD. It will change tomorrow as long as you accept responsibility for him cheating because of something you did or didn't do, either knowingly or unknowingly, either wittingly or unwittingly, either consciously or unconsciously... .while you were awake or asleep it doesn't matter when or how you did it. I think you get my drift. 

As long as you accept this, everything will be OK tomorrow or the next day.

The real question is, why would you subject yourself to this and why are you so surprised? I understand your hurt but why do this to yourself?


Title: Re: stranger
Post by: lisasport on September 27, 2013, 10:53:43 PM
For closure. And look him in they eye and tell him what a scum he is!


Title: Re: stranger
Post by: DragoN on September 27, 2013, 10:58:07 PM
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For closure.

You have the facts. That is the only form of closure you will ever get from him.

Sorry that it happened to you.    I know the feeling.