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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: curlybob on October 01, 2013, 02:29:45 PM



Title: should I stay or go?
Post by: curlybob on October 01, 2013, 02:29:45 PM
Hey peeps I need advice on whether to stay or go in this situation.

I have got so much done over the past few days for having some 'time out'.

Basically I met this lady at a music event that she ran and we got on great. Then after a couple of months we fell out. For 2 reasons 1 she said my material wasn't good enough and criticized me personally. At the time my friend had died so I was upset more by her below the belt comment. So i was mean to ger when I saw her. Id decided I didn't want to be part of her network and asked to be removed. It took a few mnths to be removed and she said I have precious little time to indulge you.

So you would think that was the end of it!  Nope, for 5 years she has used horoscopes to communicate, emails etc. She can do this because she works in marketing and programming.

So contact online is fairly easy. But she uses it to critcize me on a daily basis and it can be very hurtful to read.

Anyway I have never said I wouldnt speak or make an effort but only if its in person.

Which in 5 years hasn't happened from herself. I did say last yr I didn't want to see her again to which she turned up at the trainstation (obviously abandonement issues I can see now!)

But i didn't recognize her coz I wasn't wearing my glasses.

But she just seems to want someone via internet. But wants me to be involved with anyone else.

And i don't like being in the situation.  5 yrs and it hasn't changed.

I feel bad because I don't want to hurt her feelings but 5 yrs without any improvement is really tough.

Any advice would be appreciated.





Title: Re: should I stay or go?
Post by: curlybob on October 01, 2013, 02:32:24 PM
I meant to say sorry;

She doesn't want me to be wih anyone else, with only contact through he internet.


Title: Re: should I stay or go?
Post by: Aussie0zborn on October 03, 2013, 04:17:04 AM
... .for 5 years she has used horoscopes to communicate, emails etc.

Mine would often email me her horoscope so one day I checked mine and emailed it to her. Mine was not complimentary to her and said something like "you have made a mistake and you're wasting your life". Well... .  didn't I get an interesting phone call. Fully raging, she screamed :

"WHAT the F--K WAS THAT?"

Mind you, she emailed me her horoscope only when it said something like "you deserve to be spoilt", "there is a knight in shining armour ready to sweep you off your feet", and so on. These horoscopes "proved" I wasn't doing enough for her.

Anyone who asks "should I stay or leave" already knows the answer. Things will not get better and at least you're not in too deep. Cut your losses and walk away with your head high. There is nothing you could have done to fix things to make you both happy. To make her happy, you will have to lead and unhappy and unfulfilled life. Quit the craziness while you're ahead.