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Title: These things come to me slowly Post by: fromheeltoheal on October 09, 2013, 08:45:17 AM The person I thought she was would have protected me from the person she is.
Title: Re: These things come to me slowly Post by: Escaped 30.Sept.2013 on October 09, 2013, 09:56:24 AM The person I thought she was would have protected me from the person she is. True here as well. But more importantly, the person he made me feel I was at the start would have protected me from the person he is. If I can feel that good about myself because he told me that's how wonderful I was... .then I know it's possible to feel that good about myself, and that means: I can feel that good about myself again. By my own self. Title: Re: These things come to me slowly Post by: fromheeltoheal on October 09, 2013, 10:08:31 AM If I can feel that good about myself because he told me that's how wonderful I was... .then I know it's possible to feel that good about myself, and that means: I can feel that good about myself again. By my own self. Damn right, you go girl. A handy distinction is counter-intuitively that a BPD mirrors us to make themselves feel better, they do it because they don't exist as a 'self' on their own, they need to attach, and so they attach to the good they see in us to combat the bad they consider themselves to be, in the endless battle between their ears. A byproduct of that is when we get our good mirrored back to us, we fall in love with it without realizing we're looking in a mirror, because it's what we've always wanted, from others yes, but mostly from ourselves, and the good news is we already have it, our BPD saw it, showed it to us, and liked it so much they assimilated it as their own. So what we fell in love with was US. How cool is that? Title: Re: These things come to me slowly Post by: Ironmanrises on October 09, 2013, 10:08:58 AM My exUBPDgf tried to warn me... .
(I mentioned this in a previous thread)... . But ultimately... . Like yours... . Did not protect me... . From the person she turned into/was always. Title: Re: These things come to me slowly Post by: Tricky on October 09, 2013, 06:08:37 PM Just had a little feeling of warmth come over me as I reflected on heeltoheal's post. A positive message for us all in our struggle to regain our mangled confidence. Very cool indeed!
Bit of a :light:moment! Thankyou Title: Re: These things come to me slowly Post by: fromheeltoheal on October 09, 2013, 06:55:26 PM Just had a little feeling of warmth come over me as I reflected on heeltoheal's post. A positive message for us all in our struggle to regain our mangled confidence. Very cool indeed! Bit of a :light:moment! Thankyou Yes, a light moment, but also true. Give yourself that. |