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Just had terrible phone calls from my husband at work... .

we just set limits regarding phone calls and work with our counsellor on Friday, and this morning he informs me that I am not allowed to talk about work, accept phone calls from work or speak to anyone connected with work after hours.

Then he calls me a minute ago at work and says that there are lots of calls on our home phone from Private name or Private number, and I better tell my "friends" to quit calling me at home.  I told him that I didn't know who was calling and maybe if he answered the phone and asked that he could find out for both of us.

He then told me that he was going to have the home phone disconnected, I told him that it was in my name and that he couldn't do that... .then he said fine I will rip them all out of the wall.  I said go ahead psycho and hung up.

I feel horrible, I know I probably messed up BIG time by calling him a name... .first time that I haven't been able to hold it in... .and on top of it all I don't know if he is at home right now destroying everything in our home.

So stressed at this mopment and obviously not doing my work. :'(

niimin,

Wow... .what stress you must have right now not know what is going on- preooccupied and unable to focus.  I hate those phone calls that come in from the rage especially at work.  It derails everything.  I too hate when I let go of those 'belittling' adjectives to my spouse out of frustration and hurt and understanding at the same time those little barbs can come from our mouths will be words they hold and cling too and will then be brought up later and later. 

Know that I feel your pain and not alone in this. 

Can you try being lovey-dovey when he acts jealous or would it make him worse?