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Title: This is so unfair Post by: samthewiss on October 17, 2013, 07:28:31 PM I am in so much pain.
This is so unfair. I live in a small jewish community. My BP soon to be divorced wife. Is telling the community that i cheated on her with countless woman. I beat her children, am gay. I know i am powerless to stop her. it hurts. She is hurting me, hurting my kids who live in the community. I know she is sick. I know she cannot stop. I know this is her way of dealing with her crap. Apparently, she has been saying this for the last year and a half behind my back. Title: Re: This is so unfair Post by: Surnia on October 18, 2013, 12:48:08 AM I am so sorry, that you have to go through this!
Smear campaigns are so mean. Can you speak with your children about it? Perhaps this workshop could be something to read through: US: From idealization to devaluation - why we struggle. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=161524.0) Title: Re: This is so unfair Post by: Aussie0zborn on October 18, 2013, 07:51:19 AM That's terrible. I have been the subject of a smear campaign from Day 1 and the relationship lasted seven years.
I think of my friend who was in this position. It took 15 years for the people in his community to apologise to him for getting it wrong and listening to his ex-wife. He had gotten on with his life, became successful and highly admired in his community so their apologies were not needed. As much as it hurts, the trick is to get on with your life and the people in your community will see you for the person that you are and the person that she is. It may take time but you will come out on top. Title: Re: This is so unfair Post by: HarmKrakow on October 18, 2013, 08:07:02 AM That's terrible. I have been the subject of a smear campaign from Day 1 and the relationship lasted seven years. I think of my friend who was in this position. It took 15 years for the people in his community to apologise to him for getting it wrong and listening to his ex-wife. He had gotten on with his life, became successful and highly admired in his community so their apologies were not needed. As much as it hurts, the trick is to get on with your life and the people in your community will see you for the person that you are and the person that she is. It may take time but you will come out on top. And even if they DON'T(!) accept you back, cut your losses. When broken, don't hold back on old privileges, old words, they don't mean jack bean sh!t anymore. Rewrite words. Title: Re: This is so unfair Post by: samthewiss on October 18, 2013, 01:04:46 PM Thank you for your support.
Title: Re: This is so unfair Post by: HarmKrakow on October 18, 2013, 01:07:32 PM Thank you for your support. No, thank you for venting here on this board. That's what it is about :) |