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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD => Topic started by: qcarolr on October 17, 2013, 11:28:00 PM



Title: Transistion support in jail
Post by: qcarolr on October 17, 2013, 11:28:00 PM
Last 2 nights good calls from BPDDD27. She her hearing is next Thurs. Hopeful to get release to probation after 7 weeks in jail. Finally she seems to be getting connetion with transistion program T. Think it has helped that I called the probation program she has qualified for, with DD giving verbal permission to talk with them. They are emailing the PD lawyer so the correct referral is provided to the judge. We are also sucking some retirement funds out to pay for temporary housing - this helps a lot with probation as well. Gives her a safe place to be. I think this has calmed her a lot so she has the mental/emotional ability to access the resources there for her.

My relief comes from hearing about the support network being built for her that does not include me on a daily basis. The probation progam will be there on a daily basis. She will be living in the larger town 15 miles away. She can walk or get bus, and is familiar with the area. Just needs to stay away from homeless friends.

Gd adjusting to plan for DD to take her dog. Practice opportunity for loss here. She will still have our second dog, that is really our family dog. I ordered the service dog tag today so can ride the bus with her. Her psych. disability qualifies under ADA.

Will keep searching for a less expensive, longer term housing solution for her. Apartments are scarce due to many homes damaged by flooding last month. Things should open up by first of year. THis gives her a few months to prove her commitment to the program before we get into a lease with her. The motel suite is month to month during off season not much ore than rent/utilities etc. And they provide housekeeping weekly!

I know there will be those cycle down times. With this distance, and others for her to turn to, I think I can manage being a more positive, validating, unconditional love support for her.

qcr |iiii


Title: Re: Transistion support in jail
Post by: Rapt Reader on October 17, 2013, 11:51:07 PM
Hi, qcarolr 

This does sound promising!

I wish you and your family the best... .You are doing what you can, and with the support system and Dual Diagnosis Program (that's what it is, right?) in place, your daughter is getting what she needs.

The rest will be up to her... .Sometimes our children really can live up to a new challenge when we let go and let God. My prayers are with her.

You sound like you are doing well, yourself  |iiii

Good luck!