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So I got a new iPhone and it has really helped me heal? The old phone had her photos on it, text messages that I couldn't get myself to erase, all sorts of things.  Let's face it, we are addicted to our phones and the one we carried while we were with her was precisely the one we stared at when she sent us those raging texts or when we waited to see if she would write to us.

NO MORE! The fresh new one is nice and blank, I did not transfer any of the old stuff over.  Clean slate.  And it has helped tremendously.  Think about getting a new phone. Doesn't have to be an iPhone, just something clean to celebrate a new beginning.

Very smart... .

And forward thinking... .

Hope.

I can imagine... .

That can only help.

A fresh start.

If this phone wasn't so new... .

I would do the same.

 |iiii  I am all for fresh starts!

What great is that the sounds it makes when a new message comes in, the colors, everything is different so I no longer have that Pavlovian response ever time I get a new text message.

Hope, I have been thinking about doing the same thing for the past month! Thing is, I love my two-year-old Droid Pro because of the keyboard. But I have thought all the same things as you: just pack away the phone with the photos of me and my ex, the saved texts -- both nice and mean ones, his phone number, etc., and start fresh.

Besides my ex's ghost lingering on that phone, it would be good to clear out some details of the past two years of my life and start new anyway. Not that I had a bad two years (was with ex seven months), but I really am holding on to junk that I should lose. Since I met the uBPDex, my life changed dramatically, partly because of him and partly because of timing on a job and I had to relocate and I have been seriously resisting the changes. I have to let go of a lot more than my failed r/s.

Thank you for the helpful input.

Peas you don't need to buy an iPhone, just a NEW phone, maybe a newer model.  I'm telling you - it helps SO MUCH! You're exactly right, all those photos and texts - just store them away and start holding what represents a new start, a new hope... .