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Hi,

Was just wondering if anybody had a similar experience. My UBPD ex never took birth control pills. I've later read that a scientific study has found that the pill can affect a person with BPD and their emotions quite badly.

Has anyone else been out with a girl with BPD that was affected when taking the pill or refused to take it after knowing how it affects them?

Thanks

My Ex Girlfriend was on the birth control pill and quite often blamed her bad behavior on her hormones or period... .But when it was over long periods of time it just didnt add up.

my ex initially was on the pill when we started seeing each other but complained about not liking them and stopped maybe a year or so into the r/s. as soon as we broke up though she was right back on them probably saying the same thing to the next guy. i remember her innappropriately mentioning that "damn, i need to get more birth control pills" one time when we were hanging out post breakup--what she meant by this is, "hey exbf, just wanted to inform you that i'm having tons of unprotected sex now." friendly gal, right?

People say BPD is not malicious but what Goldy just mentioned about the ex sounds very malicious to me!

Mine took it. She claimed that her passiv-aggressive behavior was caused by the pills.

I told her to stop taking them, but actually nothing changed.

I think that some women definitely use their period and/or birth control as an excuse to be moody. I am a woman myself... and I think it's blown out of proportion. There are lots of contraceptive methods available so if someone doesn't like being on the pill, they could try the injection, the coil etc etc. I actually have PMS (Pre-Menstrual Syndrome) but at the same time, it's my responsibility to take care of it.

Mine did, but it made her feel bad. She adjusted the dose. It hurt her, but she never wanted to use lube, wanted it to be "natural" because she was so hung up on an idealistic experience. Then later she blamed me for seeing her in pain and not telling her it was ok to stop, as if I forced them down her throat. I think almost 5 years later, she still holds this against me. Interestingly, she told me she had the same experience with her one True Love, the guy she was hung up on while still with me, even though that ended almost two years before she met me.

Same. Freaking. Pattern.

Now she's fixed, so she won't have to do that again... .but will likely get some kind of STD because she has no good judgement when it comes to that, or of men. Very sad.

My experience is very close to goldy's. about a year into my relationship with ex, she claimed the pill was the reason for her bad emotions. I supported her getting off them.  Our sex life slowly went away to the point where it was a big fat zero. Her excuses for over the course of six months were in order: self esteem body issues, back pain, illness, hormones.

At the end of our relationship on breakup day, she said she was back on the pill because her doctor said she had a cyst causing her problems from not being on the pill. She also used not having the pill as a reason for her treating me poorly towards the end. I agree with goldy's idea that they start taking it for the next guy.

My personal belief is they do this for a reason. Unprotected sex chemically creates a stronger bond between two people. And thus a stronger attachment.

I see so many parallels here from what I experienced my relationship. One, my uBPDexgf hated birth control because she said it messed with her emotionally and she totally abstained from it. However, during round 1, we used condoms and she started taking birth control right before I was devalued and discarded. At the time, I actually saw her taking a pill and asked her what she was taking and she told me birth control, I ignored it. She proceeded to ask me why I hadn't asked her why she was taking it. I told her "it wasn't my business." She hAted that response. During round 2, she didn't take birth control at all but it was much more emotional and I believe that she used the unprotected sex to trap me.