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It has been six months since my uBPD ex last tried to re-engage with me, asking me inappropriate personal questions etc. I ignored him and have been continuing to enjoy a new life of peace and calm. The man I once loved turned deadly toxic and I could never interact with him again.

Anyhow today I find out completely by accident that my replacement/his supposed "mad" ex is seven months pregnant. So how do I feel about it?

First I thought, oh ok, and felt indifferent and unsurprised.

Second I thought, oh I wonder if this will make it more likely that I will never ever hear or see him again? That would be great! I would love that to be definitively the case.

Third I thought, poor girl, she's much braver than me. The man made me sick with stress and painted me night black. Poor girl!

Fourth I thought, well maybe this means he has/they have turned a corner. Good for them if they have... .providing I still never hear from him again.

Five I thought, this might be good for him, and good for his BPD. That would be a nice outcome. Good luck to him.

Six I thought, ok too much thought expended on his account  lol

I thought I would share this, as I am still learning everyday from my encounter with BPD, but I wanted to share that there is life afterwards. I want nothing to do with the man, because I got so hurt and almost destroyed by my involvement with him. But good luck to him. Good luck to everyone. I guess I have turned a corner.

I love my BPD-free life, it is so calm and simple and reasonable and comfortable. I feel I appreciate and value those things much more now  :)

Hey Lucky.  Thanks for coming back and sharing with us.  If you check this for replies, I am curious how long with dated your exBPD and how long ago you actually ended things.

Thanks!  Glad to hear you are doing so well.

Congratulations to you for a healing well done!  I look forward to the day I feel as you do, and I wish you a BPD-free future.