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I have not had contact with my ex fiancé since july. He has a new source, since he cheated on me and is with the love of his life now... .Oct 26 would of been 4 years since I went down to Houston to see him and we were friends from high school and had a whirl wind romance. I am blocked on facebook and haven't had any desire to check out his page but found out he posted a picture of the dog we bought together on his page on the 26th... .what should I think about this... .I am not going to contact him but what could it mean... .I don't want him back,dont want to talk to him he is a con man and took me for a lot of money plus is a pathological liar but it baffles me as to why he posted this pic of our dog. I have the dog and he is mine... .any ideas

Wrigley 52

Hi wrigley,

That is a tough one.  The dog was something that bonded you two and he could be missing that bond and closeness you had.  He is not just going to forget about you.  Have you been apart for a long time? 

Hi Wrigley, sorry to hear you're struggling with these thoughts.  They can drive us crazy if we let them.

Posting the pic could mean any number of things... .

What matters are the feelings within you that this is conjuring up.  You mentioned feeling baffled; is anything else going on?

We have been apart since July 21 with no contact. He cheated on me and I confronted them both and kicked him out. She wouldn't believe me when I told her all his lies. He lied to us both about everything. He was cheating on me from the get go and I didn't suspect a thing and he lied about me to his family and got them not to like me to keep me from telling them things that he was lying about. He is awful and I really don't want any contact from him. It just threw me since I found out he posted what is now my dog. He took down any pics of me but now has my dog on his page. I am blocked from his fb and I am glad. I just wondered if this was some ploy to get a rise out of me or what his motive might be.I have been doing pretty well sometimes tho I do try to figure out how someone could live a double life and lie about everything

Wrigley 52

My guess would be to get a rise out of you. But, of course you'll never know. Even if he told you why you still wouldn't know! Ask him twice & you'll get two different answers! Lies & deception seem to be a specialty of their's! Yes, I too always wonder how someone could lie about so many things & it not bother them in the slightest way. Look you straight in the face & with no noticeable signs what so ever, lie, lie, lie. And I don't mean little white lies. I mean cheating lies! My ex-BPDGF used to say she wasn't lying, she was just telling me what I wanted to hear! She didn't want to hurt me! Yes, they cheat on us. And they do it over & over. And it doesn't seem to bother them at all. They just don't think like we do! Spur of the moment instant gratification! It's ALL about THEM! In their minds it's ok cuz it's what they need to do to survive... .Good luck  zzz

hurt by borderline... .oh my goodness it was so the same for me even when I kicked him out and said so is she your girlfriend he lied. A week later on FB he put she was his girlfriend from July 10 and I kicked him out July 21. He hid a cell phone and I found it and finally had enough. I think he planned the whole thing to get back up to where we live from Texas. I don't even think he ever loved me. He just wanted my money. I found out recently that at the same time I was suppose to be the love of his life he was talking to someone we went to high school with too. Then things took off with me and I moved him here and he told her I was jealous and he had to unfriend her from FB. I never even knew about her. We met a few weeks ago and she told me all this. A few days before I  found out about the new girlfriend we saw our high school friend and when we got in the car he said to me I don't like M at all and I was like she is a perfectly nice person. I couldn't figure out why he didn't like her now I know he didn't want me to find out the truth. He manipulates people with perfection. Glad I am no longer in this mess. I just scratch my head sometimes wondering how did I ever get sucked in. Now I am working on me... .