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Have any of u noticed after your breakup that your ex's appearance went downhill after your breakup. I unfortunately have to work with my ex uBPDgf so I see her from time to time. We have broken up 19 times in past 2 years. Most only lasted tops 5 days and then I would usually find a reason to have to go to her office. One time over the summer I stretched it a week and when I saw her she looked terrible. Clothes didn't fit and hair was a mess.

This last breakup is for real and she knows it. I haven't contacted her in over 2 weeks. She looks awful. Looks like she aged 10 years. Dresses like a middle age bar y desperate to pickup anyone. She would always dress sexy professional when together. I like wearing suits and wearing nice clothes to work. Maybe she was mirroring.

She told me a few days after the break that she needs a new life now that I'm gone. She said I was her moral compass and she doesn't know how to think about anything. She was rambling on the phone and claimed she wasn't drunk but she was making no sense. Would just blurt out phrases like she's afraid of people and that she see the wrong people. Stuff that made no sense. Of course after I calmed her down and she felt better she turned on me. Said I was a liar and was full of crap. Claimed I ruined her life.

Usually after she pulls that I text or call her the next day. To my credit I never did. I think she was shocked that she's losing her grip on me.

Yes BUT I wonder if it is really that they look worse or that we are healing such that we do not find them as attractive as before?

That is a great point. Before I got involved with her I wasn't attracted to her at all. She was pretty but I wasn't head over heals for her. It wasn't until I was deeply enmeshed that I thought she was the most beautiful woman ever. Scary what the mind can do when screwed with.