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Title: No Contact since May... it does start to get better little by little Post by: Blade99d on October 29, 2013, 05:49:20 AM So I have been NC with my ex since mid-May, and at that point I thought I would never make it through this. I have been seeing a T weekly since April, and it has helped me immensly to identify what my BPD ex provided me that allowed me to be treated like a doormat. She gave me the validation, and the sense of unconditional love I never received from my dad. I say the sense of unconditional love, because as soon as we got really close, the devaluation started, because of her fears. I am not angry with her, just like I am not angry with my dad. Do I want a relationship with both of them? Yes, but only a healthy relationship, which is nearly impossible to ever imagine. Time to fully heal and put me first. For those that may not be working with a T for whatever reason, this has been the best decision of my LIFE. There is a reason we ended up in this kind of relationship, and it's not 100% all about BPD. We were/are 50% of the relationship.
Title: Re: No Contact since May... it does start to get better little by little Post by: Surnia on October 30, 2013, 12:21:30 AM Blade
this are good news, very insightful and thank you very much for sharing it! Having a good T to work with is such a gift! Excerpt There is a reason we ended up in this kind of relationship, and it's not 100% all about BPD. |iiii |