BPDFamily.com

If you have not seen this, it is fascinating to watch.

Although I dare say these are to a degree 'high functioning" cases of BPD, compared to what I deal with anyway :)

https://bpdfamily.blogspot.com/2013/10/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder.html

I am a BPD carer of BPD youth.

It is interesting if more than a little subjective.

To me it gives a quite a superficial and sanitised impression of what it's actually like to be in a relationship with a BPD.

The trauma, the terrible confusion and damage that is caused.

And the prognosis it presents doesn't seem to reflect the experience of many of the posters on this board. It doesn't reflect that the success of most conventional, transference therapy is very low and high drop out rate is very high... .

It seems to be heavily promotional of DBT without any objective voice reflecting the risks or complications. Read the posts of 2010 for a first hand experience going through this therapy with a BPD.

Other equally effective like Schema don't even get a mention

And apart from one more accurate reflection on the evidence for successful treatment the documentary doesn't touch on;

1. the huge difficulty in getting sufferers to acknowledge that they have a problem and need help

2. Getting BPD sufferers to begin appropriate therapy

3. Getting BPD sufferers to stay in therapy

It seems very geared towards the sufferers experience and perspective. I don't think it ever really captures the terrible chaos and heartbreak that it can cause to the loved ones.

In order to commit to therapy and get well and a BPD sufferer has to genuinely acknowledge they are responsible for their actions and behaviour and only they have the power to change.

But an unwillingness to accept personality responsibility is one of the most crippling aspects of the disease and makes it incredibly difficult to treat.

How many people on this board have partners who have successfully been treated by any therapy? There's a few I know but they are rare

Thanks for the tag.

Very good and insightful video, it helped me to comprehend what it is like for the individuals suffering from BPD.

Joe :)

Hi Moda,

I didn't intend to judgemental and I appreciate that you have first hand experience of what it's like to live with BP every day.

If you search for the user 2010 you should be able to find her posts.

Very insightful and knowledgable. When her BPD partner began DBT she was encourage to take park and from what I remember she spent quite some time in group therapy with him. I don't think she dismissed DBT but she did say that she felt that it was pointless and even destructive for the non BPD to be involved.

According the limited evidence DBT does have a higher success rate than other more traditional therapies (as does Schema).

I think they both have their place and it's interesting that you've found that medication has helped to treat your condition.

I think at times we all struggle to take responsibility for our choices and actions but my experience of living with a BPD, was that she was a chronic blamer. It was very insidious and destructive and left my feeling very angry and resentful.

I think the ability to change begins with recognising your own control over your life and not blaming others for your choices and actions.

It's very seductive to see yourself as a victim but unless you take responsibility for yourself you can never really change.

I do believe that real change and transformation is possible for Nons and BP but its decking hard and takes real sustained effort.

It is interesting to hear BP tell their story. I think it would have been even more interesting and reflective of the truth to go a little deeper. The experiences shared by the families featured in the doc were very different from what many posters described here.