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Title: how much is too much? Post by: tnbh on November 04, 2013, 10:55:31 PM Hey yall. I have to say I'm really glad I found this place. I've learned quite a bit by reading the boards. So thanks!
I married a woman with BPD last December and have been separated with NC since June. I feel like such a failure for not bei.g able to hold things together. This is where I wonder how much is too much? How much am I expected to take? I honestly didn't know the woman I was marrying. She's violent manipulative degrading and dangerous. I chose to leave when she started putting down my 15 yo daughter (from a prior relationship). I could go on and on about what this woman has done to me. Yet I still love her and want her.to get help. I'd just like to know what the breaking points for you all were. Did you feel weak for giving up? Thanks Title: Re: how much is too much? Post by: Surnia on November 05, 2013, 12:40:25 AM Hi tnbh
So sorry to hear this, about your short marriage. I felt in someways the same thing about not being able to make my marriage work. For me it was important to think about my values. How do I want be treated? How much respect is important to me? Where are my boundaries? And what you are saying about your daughter and about her being dangerous - I guess this is about healthy boundaries too. This article could be helpful too for you: The Characteristics of Healthy Relationships (https://bpdfamily.com/tools/articles15.htm) |