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Title: had a thought break through so ill put it out there Post by: tnbh on November 06, 2013, 08:21:45 AM After reading these horror stories the past few days I realize I'm not alone. My story sounds like those on here. The thought that hit me like a ton of bricks is simple. WHY?
Why do I/we put up with such horrible things? In my case I realized that I don't really know my BPD. We don't share the normal things a healthy couple share. We don't do much of anything as a couple we just kind of exist under the same roof. We don't show one another love as a healthy couple would.I rarely see any good from this relationship. It has been an uphill battle from the start scratching and clawing for any resemblance of a loving RS. I am of the opinion that if I stayed I would ultimately be surrendering my life to her to do with it as she please. I have dozens of reasons why I left. I can only think of a few reasons to have stayed. Thanks for taking time to read this post. I hope it made some sense. Title: Re: had a thought break through so ill put it out there Post by: Learning_curve74 on November 06, 2013, 08:59:07 AM Hi tnbh. You're very insightful! I agree that all the stories here share a lot of similarities, and the one thread running through them all is that they were/are unhealthy relationships. Good job on the observation. |iiii
Why did so many of us stay with a toxic partner? There are reasons why, and figuring them out is a vital part of our healing and growth. Self-examination can be extremely uncomfortable, so I'm not surprised how many of us struggle. You said that you left, tnbh, and it sounds like you had a number of good reasons to. Have you figured out the reasons why you initially stayed? Title: Re: had a thought break through so ill put it out there Post by: Ironmanrises on November 06, 2013, 09:58:52 AM After reading these horror stories the past few days I realize I'm not alone. My story sounds like those on here. The thought that hit me like a ton of bricks is simple. WHY? Why do I/we put up with such horrible things? In my case I realized that I don't really know my BPD. We don't share the normal things a healthy couple share. We don't do much of anything as a couple we just kind of exist under the same roof. We don't show one another love as a healthy couple would.I rarely see any good from this relationship. It has been an uphill battle from the start scratching and clawing for any resemblance of a loving RS. I am of the opinion that if I stayed I would ultimately be surrendering my life to her to do with it as she please. I have dozens of reasons why I left. I can only think of a few reasons to have stayed. Thanks for taking time to read this post. I hope it made some sense. In bold. For me... . Lack of self love. Had i loved myself enough... . I would have not let her... . Reenter my life in round 2. Lack of self love... . Also kept me in the relationship... . Allowing horrible emotional abuse... . Until she left again. Had i loved myself properly... . I would have walked away. Hang in there. Title: Re: had a thought break through so ill put it out there Post by: zkirtz on November 06, 2013, 05:30:21 PM |iiii
why. Why, WHY, WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY |