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Title: Stuck Post by: Onmyown on November 06, 2013, 08:42:21 PM Is anyone else stuck in the "angry" phase of the breakup?
I'm good some days and then waves of anger wash over me to include rehashing all that was done over and over to me again, to the anger at myself for letting it happen over and over again. I'm liking my freedom and try to focus on the happiness I'm slowly finding, but am waking in the night with these feelings swirling around in my head. I also find myself in the middle of the day having anxiety as well with these feelings. Any suggestions are appreciated Title: Re: Stuck Post by: ShadowDancer on November 06, 2013, 08:46:55 PM Anger for me was the big kahuna. The bear I wrestled alone in the dark. It served its purpose until I was exhausted and said Uncle. Now I'm in training as a long distance runner. RUN FOREST RUN!
Title: Re: Stuck Post by: fromheeltoheal on November 06, 2013, 08:51:19 PM I thought I was stuck too, very angry for months, and had the wrong person crossed my path during that time I probably would have gone to jail. But it passed. I've learned that there are stages of detachment similar to those for grieving; denial, anger depression, acceptance. Not sure if I got that right, but it has seemed right for me. After the anger waned, and thank god, it was exhausting, I got pretty depressed and physically sick, no energy, not caring about anything; that lasted for maybe 2 months, and I feel like I'm coming to the end of it, entering acceptance. All of the emotions around her are weak now, I don't think about her often, and I'm ready to take the many lessons and move forward with my life, actually things feel better now than they did before I met her, mostly because I have clear direction.
Anyway, maybe you're not stuck, maybe it's a phase you're still working through. Vigorous workouts were good at taking the energy out of the anger, at least for the day, you might try that. |