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I just discovered she had captured a private message between my mother and I regarding her and her illness.  We were discussing what her father and I talked about and there wasn't much too much information in it, but I was a bit flabbergasted she had caught it I was being careful... .  No I could delete it from her computer but there was nothing too harmful in it.  I don't know this little piece of information seemed shocking anyway. I guess the craziness is she is she didn't bring it up to me only emailed herself regarding it.

Ah, computer games! Can I play, too? I'm already there... .

Seriously, though, if you did not trigger a bad reaction from her, then... .you didn't. It is kind of a consensus around here, however, that telling the BPD in our life that they have it is not a good idea. Of course, loving them, and wanting what we think is best for them, it is hard not to. I threw it out at mine two months ago and it scared the heck out of her. That was before I ran into some threads here saying that this was not wise (and all but useless anyway).

Does she actually know she has BPD or as been diagnosed? What about any other mental illnesses? Are you or she in counseling together or separately?

Mine was diagnosed a few years ago with depression, but her therapist isn't making the connection that it is co-morbid with something else (the BPD, in my opinion). My X and I are all but done, though still living in the same house for now. She does, however, exhibit this behavior of writing things to herself on the computer. Occasionally, I have found them. Others, I hit upon by accident when doing a ctl+v (paste) and I found some things that were quite shocking to me, though they did enlighten me further about what's going on inside of her.

I found a note the other day and I responded to it (left it up on the computer). Two days later she saw it and said that she didn't mean for me to read that. I replied, "consciously... ." She just stared at me. Interestingly, two days later, I found this new journal she was writing in, and she left it out in the living room. I noted an entry; snapped a photo to document it. The next day, she left it on the table on top of some of my stuff. More entries to "herself." Weird, but again, enlightening.

All in all, if you are at the paranoid stage I am at (well, I am past that, but now still trying to make sense of this twisted world), if you use the same account, cover your tracks. Selectively erase your browsing history. Don't ctl+v,c text that you write.

Her father is a Phd in psychology and what I was sharing with my mother was his beginning thoughts that she has BPD.  The word had come up in the conversation chain a few times but I doubt she will look up the acronym.  The issue was she hacked my facebook to get to my private messages section... .But didn't attack me that she found it so she is saving it for a special occasion now I am sure... .

Knowing is... .half the battle.

Nice.

It is curious that he may just now be beginning to realize his daughter may have this PD. Do you have any insight into her childhood from things she has told you? BPD is defined, among other things, as a pattern of unstable relationships (friends, lover, siblings, parents). If she is still young, then the pattern might not be as evident if she is high functioning, but it is probably still there.

No we are 33, they were aware of her being ill but she hasn't been home for years. They tried to get her in therapy as a child but it failed when she shut down like a rock.  Funny I call her my angry pet rock.  It was more a case of being too close to see what was right in front of him.  A can't see the forest for the trees.  And man am I glad someone got the GI-Joe reference.