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Title: First rant that didn't hurt me Post by: Mcgddss on November 08, 2013, 10:22:24 AM So I have been working hard at setting boundaries and my soon to be ex uBPDh has been pushing the limits.
I have limited our communication to email and due to recent events I needed to email a reminder of my chosen boundaries. My email of 139 words was met with a 1,085 word rant. 10 times what I wrote. It didn't matter. He went on and on and on. I didn't care. I am hopeful that my children (d8 and s5) don't bear the brunt of his anger tonight. We are currently sharing our children so I am forced to leave them with him. I have no idea how to handle his parenting. I am currently 100% hands off with what he does because we are still working on the divorce. But for today, I am calling this a victory. |iiii Title: Re: First rant that didn't hurt me Post by: crystal on November 08, 2013, 01:54:07 PM DEFINITE VICTORY! good for you!
And you will find it spirals up! Not getting hurt/not engaging leaves you more emotional energy for positive things! There will be back steps as well--but this is a huge step forward.And now that you know you can do it, it may be just a little easier next time that you start to feel hurt-- reflect on this moment and owrk toward disengaging Title: Re: First rant that didn't hurt me Post by: Free One on November 08, 2013, 04:46:49 PM Way to go! :)
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