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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD => Topic started by: karma74 on November 08, 2013, 01:56:25 PM



Title: my daughter
Post by: karma74 on November 08, 2013, 01:56:25 PM
my daughter is 18 and just has been diagnosed with BPD

I feel lost in how I can help her on an everyday basis

She does not get out of her bed, room and has not done so for the past 2 months except when I drove her to her friend.

What can I do to help her until treatment is available

She is presently on a waiting list and it will take 3 to 6 months before any therapy begins


Title: Re: my daughter
Post by: Learning_curve74 on November 08, 2013, 02:22:15 PM
Hello karma74, I'd like to offer you a warm welcome to our community.  *welcome*

I have to admit that I don't have any children myself, but I can empathize with you as I love my niece and nephew to death and would do whatever I could to help them if they were in the same situation as your daughter. My heart goes out to you and your daughter.  

It must be hard for you to see your daughter so isolated. Are there other behaviors or things she says that concern you?

I'm not sure how familiar you are with BPD, but here is a link to some information that may help clarify things for you: Symptoms and diagnosis of BPD (https://bpdfamily.com/tools/articles2.htm). Another good source of information that can help you is this article: Supporting a loved one with BPD (https://bpdfamily.com/content/support-child-therapy).

When a family member has BPD, it can affect everybody in the family, not just the person with BPD. Make sure to check out the Parenting a son or daughter with BPD discussion board (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?board=4.0) for help and support from other parents dealing with the same situation you find yourself in.

I know 3 to 6 months is a long time to wait. You may want to ask on the parenting board for how other parents dealt with this. It may depend on what country you live in and the mental health care system there.

Best wishes to you and your daughter. I hope that you find the help and support that you are seeking. From me here is a hug to you both.  


Title: Re: my daughter
Post by: peaceplease on November 08, 2013, 09:11:03 PM
karma74,

  I would like to join learningcurve in welcoming you to this site.  I  highly suspect that my daughter, age 29, has BPD. This site has really helped me.  Also, I was in individual therapy to help me communicate with my daughter. 

You mentioned that your daughter is on a wait list for three months. Is that inpatient or outpatient?

Please let us know if we can help you find anything.  I hope you will join us on the parents board.

peaceplease