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So, I walk out my front door and see this car checking out my house, thought I recognized the guy in the car, then he proceeds to drive away and make a u-turn and comes back by to look at me to let me see that he sees me.  This is my weekend to have my son, so I pick him up fro school and ask him if he knows anyone that has a the type of car this gentleman was in.  Low behold the new mister X has this type car and she has him coming over to check on me? 

What do I do, she has her new man watching and coming over to my house... .good thing is my son now knows too.  Has anyone ever had this stuff happen before?  Should I contact the police and get a restraining order? what?

I would contact the police. For all you know this guy is some sort of nut and no telling what she has told him. Like you are harrassing her or that youve done something to her. I found mine to be a very convicing liar and she could convince anybody of just about anything. I would take precations and call the police, what would it hurt?

Contact the police immediately!

The police probably won't do much, it's not against the law to drive down someone's street. Do you feel threatened? It may be beneficial to speak with your divorce attorney. Let him know your son confirmed the type of car your ex's boyfriend is driving and that this was a very odd occurrence. He will be able to direct you to any course of action where you live. 

Yes, you can contact the police!  Just tell the dispatcher that someone is watching your house and being confrontational (the U-turn,  drive-by and stare).  At the least, you can talk to any court family advocacy (or whatever equivalent) office to make the report, but you should get it documented!  All you have to do is make sure that you report this incident so that if he drives by again, then again, etc., you can continue to amend the report.  Hopefully, someone might get the idea that you’re serious and investigate. 

And especially if you can put in even a rudimentary surveillance system and show that you have evidence.  A laptop with a cheap video camera set in a shaded window works great.  Exactly what I did for some friends being harassed by an ex-spouse.  So does a wireless baby monitor if you want.  My friends took my suggestion further, bought a new “lawn ornament”, and put the baby camera facing the approach end of the street.  Got the ex-spouse coming and going, date and time of day.

Identifying the vehicle is important though.  They get smart sometimes and borrow family or friends cars, so if you want to be vigilant, take your camera out to the curb and take a picture each way up the street, particularly if you see cars you aren't familiar with.  Even if you don't sit around viewing the pics and comparing cars (no, it's not a paranoia thing), if they are surveilling you they will see you being vigilant. 

Ok, I was in security in the military.  I tend to want to help with whatever skills I have, even helping families if they have a military family member, so they know what they need to get a military funeral.  LOL, I also loaded bombs and missiles on fighters and bombers, managed 15 dormitory buildings on an Air Force base, the security thing, the Honor Guard thing, managed a computer network system, and managed work shops with up to 50 personnel.  I got around!

Yep same thing happened to me in a way. I saw her ex (are they ever really ex) drive down my road in the car I GAVE HER!. Now keep in mind I live WAY OUT in the sticks and it was after dark but I saw him clearly in the headlights as he turned his head in our passing. When I got home I slammed in the clip, turned out the lights, and sat on the porch for several hours after listening to the night... .had a bad feeling.

Two weeks later she asks me to drive to town and meet her at a restaurant to talk about "us". Like a fool I do this, you know me, Mr. White Knight giving her "closure" and all... .sheesh.

I come home and Mr. Ex and his drug infested crew had robbed my home! $30,000.00 in losses and an injured dog and all... .I call her landlord that I paid the first and last months rent to in my effort to "set her up" in better condition than I found her in. Landlord tells me... .Shadow she moved out 2 weeks ago, no forwarding address.

I call her employer whom is a friend where I secured her gainful employment, again in my effort to "set her up". He tells me sorry Shadow she stopped showing up 2 weeks ago... .no notice... .poof gone.

It all makes sense now. Looks like the one who was "set up" was me. Just in a different way.

The moral of my story. If you see ANY of her men, especially near your personal space or home consider it as NOT in your best interests... .and quite possibly the first clue that trouble brews over the horizon.

Today I do believe underestimation of the stupid was my greatest blunder.

Call the police, get it on record somewhere in case something goes down further on down the track.

Yes, contact the police. Very important to have it on record. Especially if he has been sitting outside your house waiting/spying.

Ask yourself why on earth would the new guy do a drive by like that? He's clearly not stable, no normal person would do that.

You have no idea what she has said to him. Contact the police and get it on record incase things escalate.