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Title: Do they have an unrealistic view of their age? Post by: nevermore on November 10, 2013, 08:18:53 AM My BPD mother is 86. She has always behaved as if she is younger than her age but even now she will say things like "My teeth are crooked because I still have my wisdom teeth. They take them out of kids all the time. Why didn't they take mine out?" ? She says "I wouldn't care a thing about seeing (insert name of a popular teen band)" Seriously? It is like she thinks she is in her 30's. This is a highly intelligent, clear thinking woman. Does this kind of inability to accept their age go along with BPD? I could give 1000 examples of this kind of statement. It happens daily.
Title: Re: Do they have an unrealistic view of their age? Post by: tryintogetby on November 10, 2013, 09:12:02 AM It certainly did happen with uNPD dad. He was almost completely unable to see that he was in his mid-fifties. He was obsessed with staying young, and always believed himself to be super-attractive to women. And whenever I liked my own music, he was constantly comparing it to music in the seventies, and talking about how it just didn't measure up, and about how we "should" like this other music. I know that the music thing seems not-so-odd when I write it out, but in person, it was like he honestly believed this was "current music." I'm in my thirties, and even I understand that the music I liked ten years ago has little to no influence on my own kids.
My uBPD mother, OTOH, had a horror of growing old. She was constantly mourning her aging process, weeping over it, wearing librarian glasses-on-the-nose, matronly hair styles, and dressing far older than she needed to. I think that in PD's, their emotional maturity is so out-of-whack, that he aging is likely to be totally out-of-synch with the rest of the world. Title: Re: Do they have an unrealistic view of their age? Post by: bruceli on December 04, 2013, 12:22:04 PM 51 yo PDw thinks and acts like a 25 yo. Even said one day... .Hmmmm... .most of my FRIENDS are in their 20's and thirties. This however is now working against her because she's no longer the center of attention at the beach any longer as she walks besides her "friends." What this means is hours of raging when she gets home because she no longer gets her NPD fill.
Title: Re: Do they have an unrealistic view of their age? Post by: Deb on December 04, 2013, 05:03:35 PM My sister dresses like someone much younger. She showed up at an outdoor event a few years back, dressed like a teenager would. She was in her 50's. She wore a teeny tiny top and short short short shorts. And she is not skinny. It was not a pretty sight. I was also told she showed up at a costume party, dressed as a young child and acted the part. Except, I had to tell my friend, she wasn't acting. And she has temper tantrums that include stamping feet like a 2 year old.
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