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Title: Need advice from you guys Post by: summerton on November 15, 2013, 08:56:57 AM I am so torn between staying and leaving! I left for 7 months about 6 years ago and was much happier at first and I think my wife was, too. Over the last several months things have gone down hill. Seems like almost anything I say starts an argument. She drives people away with her anger which boils over, sometimes with no warning at all. These days, I am totally caught up in worring about my house and all the responsibilities that go with it as well as figuring out how to pay for another place to stay. I feel so alone with my thoughts. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Title: Re: Need advice from you guys Post by: havana on November 15, 2013, 12:07:59 PM I know how you feel summerton. I was married to my wife for almost 42 years. She passed away in 2012. It becomes more & more difficult to deal with the issues the older you get. Where did you go when you left for the 7 months?
Title: Re: Need advice from you guys Post by: summerton on November 17, 2013, 07:30:07 AM I moved into a small studio apt, but even that was a challenge to pay for.
Title: Re: Need advice from you guys Post by: allibaba on November 17, 2013, 09:45:18 AM Summerton,
Have you tried the various tools to help defuse conflict? Have you asked yourself why you stay? I'm so sorry that you are feeling so alone. Welcome to bpdfamily though! *welcome* Title: Re: Need advice from you guys Post by: Changingman on November 17, 2013, 09:58:26 AM Do you have children? Why is she there?
Title: Re: Need advice from you guys Post by: momtara on November 17, 2013, 10:02:11 AM Is she willing to get therapy if it comes down to it?
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